subject: 4 Ways To Be Memorable At Any Encounter [print this page] A couple of years ago, I came across Carson Dalys shows online. Partly because of the hour in which they aired and my previous belief of does this world need another talk show I had never watched it in its entirety. However, recently I stumbled across it and found it aesthetically appealing.
There was an episode that featured actor, Derek Luke. Carson, made the comment that it was refreshing that Derek Luke was not bobbing and weaving during their conversation. You know. When the person you are speaking to is checking around the room to see if there is someone more interesting than you in the room to connect with. The impact on Carson was that this (meaning the encounter) is not the last of the last, but the beginning of the beginning. The two of them agreed to meet up again soon.
In staunch contrast (for the sake of not exposing this notable), Carson was conducting another interview with a filmmaker. Ironically, he was panning the room. I dont know if it was to determine if there was someone one rung higher on the ladder of Hollywood status. What I wondered while watching it was if Carson thought about it and compared the two interviews.
I loved watching two professionals handle an on air interview. Wondering if the latter gentleman was able to hit the reset button would he have done anything different?
None the less, appreciating the opportunity to learn from their exchange enables us lifelong learners another life lesson.
What if? Just what ifwe actively chose to think of a last of the last or a never again as a beginning of the beginning of an incredible present resulting in an even more incredible future?
I can hear my high school English teacher, Mr. Shugard cringing with the grammatical inconsistencies of that sentence.
None the less.What if? Think of the possibilities that holds. That can change everything! What a liberating and empowering thought!
What if in random or intentional encounters we chose to be fully present. Recognizing how incredible, amazing and precious encounters are.
A few ways to be fully engaged are:
1.At the beginning of the encounter declare the purpose of the meeting. Whether it is to reconnect, discuss business opportunities, decompress or retail therapy and everything in between.
2.Turn off your cellphone. Not vibrate. Not silence. Off. This more than many things in this digital age speaks time value.
3.Give good eye contact. Eyes are indeed the window to the soul. Its a way of connecting.
4.Resist panning the room. Keep the blinders on. Stay focused. Not only is it a sign of respect, it is an ego booster. Silently confirming and affirming that you matter. It validates your presence.
Reminds me of a Toni Morrison quote of children feeling validated by their parents. She asked, Do their eyes light up when you walk in the room?
Whether youre at an event or family gathering, practice these tips to make the most out of your chosen encounters. Cant guarantee it, however I believe youll receive more invitations.
