subject: Ins And Outs Of Addiction [print this page] It results in changes to the matter and chemistry of the brain, a result which varies with the type of addition and can be dramatic or very subtle.
When Too Much of a Good Thing Becomes Bad:
Almost any thing one can think of can be the subject of addiction. The amount of time and individual devotes to, engages in, and the reason he/she engages in an activity can become unhealthy and destructive no matter how healthy and worthwhile the action my seem. Two generally accepted categories of addiction exist: addiction to a substance and addiction to a behavior. Substance addiction can include alcohol, illegal drugs, prescription drugs, even sugar. Gambling, eating, shopping, work, sex, and exercise are examples of behavioral addiction.
An Addicted Person:
Each type of addition carries its own individual symptoms, however, there are general characteristics for all types.
1. Has uncontrollable "cravings". A person has lost control of how much and how often they perform the behavior. It becomes a need rather than a want.
2. Spends a great deal of time preoccupied with the behavior. They spend all their time thinking about the next time they can engage in that behavior. Their preoccupation often manifests in conversation and action.
3. They continue the behavior even though they are aware of the negative consequences. They realize the behavior is becoming destructive to their relationships, their health, their success, and their self-image and continue to do it any way. They will justify their behavior and deny that the changes in their life have anything to do with the substance or behavior they are addicted to.
Some Specifics If You're Suspicious:
DRUGS AND ALCOHOL: Increased heart rate, depression, mood swings, changes in behavior or personality, absenteeism/truancy, changes in associations, withdrawal symptoms, nasal changes, eye changes, needle marks
EATING: Hates feeling hungry, overeats, eats until their plate is clean, eats fast, eats to relieve stress or worry, has a negative perception of food
EXERCISE: Describes a "high" from physical activity, maintains a rigid fitness schedule, exercises more than once a day, usually in conjunction with an eating disorder
GAMBLING: Lying about money and spending, selling items, setting aside a gambling "fund"
INTERNET: Using everyday, going out less, less interaction with friends and family, logging on while at work, getting on after everyone has left or gone to bed to avoid confrontation
SEX: Secretive about behavior, participates in sex because of boredom or emotional strain, withdrawal from close associations, usually in addition to another addictive behavior
SHOPPING: Shops alone, hides purchases, shops to alter mood and lift spirits, spends more than they can afford
VIDEO GAMES: Neglects real life, disruptions in eating patterns (eat irregularly or skips meals), changes in sleeping patterns, problems at school or work, migraines
WORK: Always seeking approval, perfectionist, has control and authority issues, created cover ups for the extra hours they spend at work, see work as an escape
Breaking the Cycle:
To successfully overcome addiction a person must acknowledge that they have a problem and determine why the behavior is so appealing and important to them. Addictions usually stem from the need to fill a void or escape a more troubling or painful situation. For serious addictions it is best to seek a recovery center or treatment facility where consistent watch and support are provided. Counseling and support groups are available for almost any type of addiction, in fact, the original 12 Step Program developed for alcoholics has been adapted for over 200 types of addiction. Create a support system. The more people who know of your situation, the more people you are accountable to. Once the problem is acknowledged don't allow denial or justification. Make lifestyle changes to facilitate recovery. If your addiction is the internet, ditch the computer. If its alcohol, clean out the cupboards. Set up a reward system for a series of small goals. Rewarding successes is one of the easiest ways to avoid failures.
Bad Habits Replaced not Broken:
At least in the short term. Finding something to take the place of or conflict with the behavior is a sure fire way to ensure its no happening. Identify danger zones and avoid them. Take a different route home from work so you don't pass the liquor store. Invite a friend over when you're feeling stressed so you don't end up at mall. Find a new hobbie. Read self help books on addiction and other topics of interest. If you have an interest, there is probably a reason. You may end up learning how to cope with the situations and feelings you are avoiding. Volunteer. Helping others is a great way to get your mind off yourself and increase your social skills. Many of the reasons the behavior began usually have something to do with how you felt around others.
Questions to Ask Yourself:
Do I do it because I need to feel confident?
Do I do it to relax?
Do I do it when I'm on my own?
Do I forget things that happen when I am engaged in that behavior?
Have my family and friends noticed my preoccupation and asked me to cut back?
Have I gotten in trouble, legal or otherwise, because of this behavior?
