subject: First Date- Where To Go What To Say [print this page] Deciding where to go on a first date can be a tough decision. The most popular destination for a first date is a coffee shop. The main reason for this is that no alcohol is involved which could lead to drinking too much and embarrassing yourself or doing something you will regret. If you know your date enjoys food, then a restaurant is also a very good idea for a first date as you have the chance to choose somewhere impressive. Some people prefer to do something that involves activities to avoid making awkward conversation. Some more ideas for a first date are buying tickets to a sporting event, concert, theatre or the zoo and a local tourist event in your area such as a dinner on a boat, white water rafting, go carting or a hot air balloon ride. Dont go too overboard on the first date and dont set the expectations too high as you dont want to let them down if there is a second date.
There are quite a few obvious ideas for bad places to take your first date, the first one being at someones residence, for example a hotel room. This comes across very forward and could scare your date away. Another bad date idea would be to a family event such as a reunion, wedding or family party. This is also very intense for a first date and could also scare them away. It is also important to avoid the cinema on the first date as you dont get a chance to get to know each other.
Paying the bill is always an awkward part of the date. If you are the one who has arranged the date, always be prepared to pay the bill. It is traditional for the male to pay for the bill and some girls still expect that and if you dont offer to pay as a guy they might think you are cheap.
Its not easy making conversation with someone you want to impress on your first date. Avoiding her past is the most important out of our first date conversation tips. It is important not to bring up past relationships as they may not want to talk about it due to bad experiences and it could make the atmosphere awkward. It is the best to start with a clean slate and if she brings up her past then it means she is happy talking about it.
It is always good to start off conversations with basic questions to get to know one another, however, remember not to ask questions after questions as if you are reading it off a script. Let each questions lead onto the next so the conversation has connections and flows. Of course flirting is important especially on a first date. This is so they know they are there for a date and not a friendly meeting. Avoid too much flirting or they may feel uncomfortable. When you notice this in comfort, start to tone it down.
There are no guidelines to exactly what you should talk about on a date, as you dont want it to sound like it is rehearsed. It may be easier to note down a few topics you can talk about. The main topics to stick to which will start flowing conversation are things like current events you will both be family with, movies, family, profession, passion and hobbies and future goals and ambitions. This could include any relationship preferences, and then you will have an idea where this is heading.
If there are any silences during the date when there is nothing to talk about, it is more than likely your date has noticed that too. Rather than trying to make awkward conversation, try and drop in a comical comment highlighting the awkwardness, something like isnt it awkward when you have nothing to talk about, it may make your date feel less on edge if they know you have noticed it too.
