subject: The Sadness And Loneliness Of A Relationship Gone Bad [print this page] Sadness and loneliness are common occurrences, and everyone is bound to feel their sting sooner or later. No matter how happy you may be right now or how well loved you are, there is always a risk that sadness and loneliness would make their presence felt in a most unwelcome fashion.
Sadness and loneliness can be triggered by a multitude of factors, and it may take only a minor setback to launch you into a downward spiral of depression and subsequent isolation. Then there are the more serious problems that are almost certain to cause sadness and loneliness. The death of a family member, depression, a sudden illness, extreme fatigue or a personal tragedy...all of these can contribute to a state of sadness and loneliness from which it is difficult to escape.
As distressing as the feelings of sadness and loneliness that you will experience from these situations, few cut deeper than the emotional turmoil arising from a relationship gone bad. A relationship is essentially a type of covenant between both partners, and there is usually a commitment-whether implicit or implied-to stick together through the good and the bad. When the relationship falls apart for any reason, the sense of loss and disappointment is often manifested as sadness and loneliness.
Emotions can become even more complex when there is an element of abuse and/or unfaithfulness involved in the relationship. In most such cases, the victimized partner no longer wishes to remain in the relationship, and the frustration of being unable to get out of it can have devastating effects. When faced with the tragedy of such a relationship, the victimized partner may even fall into deep depression. For a person who is this sad, loneliness is only around the corner.
Abuse can take on many forms, and an abusive relationship doesn't necessarily involve beating or harsh words. Emotional abuse can occur without the aggressor having to lift a hand against the other partner, although the emotional toll is pretty much the same. Even without any incidences of physical violence in the relationship, the breakdown of communication and subsequent disregard between partners may cause a constant and all-pervading sense of isolation. A loveless marriage is not something that anyone in his right mind would want to put up with, but it is a reality that millions of couples accept for the sake of the children, or to keep up appearances with family, employers, or society. Unfortunately, this forces many people into a pattern of sadness and loneliness with no end in sight.
If you or anyone you know is suffering from sadness and loneliness in a relationship, it is important to get professional help as soon as possible. By talking to a professional therapist, you will be more easily able to get to the underlying causes of your problem and deal with it in the best way possible. In an abusive relationship, you may run into some difficulty getting the help you need, so it might be necessary to involve the law enforcement authorities at some point.
