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the web is on the up - with more of us finding romance online.
Almost one in five of the big Scottish Sex Survey respondents -
18per cent - have met a partner on the internet.
Of those who haven't yet found long-term romance, a third said
they would consider using online dating, with more men (24per cent)
seeing it as an option than women (15per cent).
But 49per cent in our survey said they'd had a bad experience
surfing for romance.
Only 15per cent of women said they felt safe meeting a partner
online but perhaps they are more wary for good reason.
Three in 10 women in the survey said they had a bad experience
through web relationships. Five of them had been attacked or raped, six
said they had been stalked stalked
adj.
Having a stalk or stem. Often used in combination: long-stalked; short-stalked.
Adj. 1. and seven said their date had been
intimidating intimidate
tr.v. intimidated, intimidating, intimidates
1. To make timid; fill with fear.
2. To coerce or inhibit by or as if by threats. and obsessive. Gay men and women had the worst experiences, with 42per cent sayinthey had a gruelling grueling also gruelling
Physically or mentally demanding to the point of exhaustion: a grueling campaign.
gru episode with the person they dated.
But gays are most likely to use online dating sites.
Lying is a big issue for people who use internet dating sites.
While 66per cent said they were honest online, 40per cent said they had
been on a date with someone who had lied.
Twenty four people said that the date was nothing like their
profile picture and 11 respondents said that the person had turned out
to be dishonest or a fake. Another seven people said that the person was
simply expecting sex.
While 26per cent said they seek out love online, 27per cent said
they would never use that method and 14per cent said it worried them.
Daily Record columnist and ex-agony aunt Joan Burnie said that
going online can be a good option but caution is needed.
She said: "There's no doubt the web is fast becoming a
preferred place for people to meet.
"It can work, especially perhaps for those who have little
opportunity to meet new partners. The problem, illustrated by the
numbers who've had a bad experience, is that it's also a
hunting ground for stalkers, weirdos and others looking for vulnerable
women - and men."
For 27per cent of men surveyed, being in a relationship is no
barrier to looking for love on the net. A third admitted they had been
unfaithful in the past.
But websites offering extramarital extramarital
adj.
Being in violation of marriage vows; adulterous: an extramarital affair.
extramarital
Adjective affairs were not popular. While
44per cent said they knew about them but didn't use them, just
under half (48per cent) said they didn't know they existed. Only
two per cent use such sites.
Web boyfriend turned out to be a monster GOING on the internet
could bring love - but it can also bring trouble.
Sonia McLay, 44, a charity fundraiser, met Steve Murray on a dating
site in November 2009 and they started a relationship.
Sonia said: "When we met he seemed charming and kind. The
relationship clicked from the start."
But within six months, after he moved into her home, petty
arguments developed.
Murray, an industrial cleaner, gave her a black eye and he became
increasingly volatile.
Sonia said: "It flared flare
v. flared, flaring, flares
v.intr.
1. To flame up with a bright, wavering light.
2. To burst into intense, sudden flame.
3.
a. up every few months when he started to
feel insecure insecure
adj.
1. Lacking emotional stability; not well-adjusted.
2. Lacking self-confidence; plagued by anxiety.
in . He was very jealous jealous
adj.
1. Fearful or wary of being supplanted; apprehensive of losing affection or position.
2.
a. Resentful or bitter in rivalry; envious: jealous of the success of others. over the silliest of things. When he
was sober, he was plausible and polite but he flared up with
alcohol."
She decided she had endured enough and they split up.
She said: "We tried to be friends but it didn't seem to
work. He carried on being vindictive and jealous."
He left her house but struggled to find a place to live and a few
months later she let him move in on a platonic basis.
But her two daughters, of 19 and 20, had stopped visiting because
they were afraid of Murray. Finally, Sonia told him to go.
She began dating again but strange things started to happen, such
as her new boyfriend's car being trashed outside her house.
eing ouse.
Murray also sent her an increasing number of abusive Tending to deceive; practicing abuse; prone to ill-treat by coarse, insulting words or harmful acts. Using ill treatment; injurious, improper, hurtful, offensive, reproachful. texts.
He then turned up drunk at Sonia's work and threatened her.
After being charged with breach of the peace, Murray was forbidden
to go near Sonia but when she got home her door locks had been filled
with glue.
ot Again, she called the ue. e police. Things escalated, despite
Murray's bail conditions insisting he make no contact with Sonia.
He began calling her from public phone boxes, believing they
couldn't be traced, local shop was scrawled with her name, calling
her a "tramp" Murray was arrested and in January he pled
guilty to stalking Criminal activity consisting of the repeated following and harassing of another person.
Stalking is a distinctive form of criminal activity composed of a series of actions that taken individually might constitute legal behavior. and two counts of breach of the peace. hey , and a
awled ling ling: see cod. f ed He was sentenced to 18 months in prison.
Sonia said: "The internet can be a way to meet people there
are also dangers.
great ple but gers. b t g pgbe , it "People should careful or,
like me, can turn into one of the worst experiences of their
lives."
HAPPY couple Phil and Tracy Oyston found true love on the internet
- after coming "faceto-face" in the battleground of an online
role-playing game role-playing game
n.
A game in which players assume the roles of characters and act out fantastical adventures, the outcomes of which are partially determined by chance, as by the roll of dice. .
Two years to the day after meeting, they tied the knot knot
In cording, the interlacement of parts of one or more ropes, cords, or other pliable materials, commonly used to bind objects together. Knots have existed from the time humans first used vines and cordlike fibers to bind stone heads to wood in primitive axes, and were .
Travel agent Tracy, 32, said: "I never dreamt I'd meet my
husband playing a computer game.
"In fact, my mum used to shout at to utter shouts at; to deride or revile with shouts.
See also: Shout me to get off the computer.
She told me I'd CaseStudy never meet anybody sitting playing a
game all day. Little did we know I'd already met the man I would
marry."
Tracy, of Edinburgh, and Phil, originally from Sunderland, first
got talking while playing World of Warcraft WoW redirects here. For other uses, see Wow.
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The game sees players from around the world chasing monsters and
fighting battles.
Tracy said: "We got chatting while playing the game. Then
we'd log off the game and talk on the phone for hours."
For Tracy, meeting Phil online meant she gradually got to know him.
She felt it removed the nerves of a first date.
She said: "Because we had spent so much time on the phone I
knew everything about him. When we met in person we just clicked. I knew
by the next day I'd met The One."
At the time, software developer Phil, 32, was living in Gloucester,
where he didn't know a soul.
He said: "Funnily enough, I had been trying online dating. But
all that time I was chatting to Tracy on World of Warcraft and it
didn't register that I'd already met somebody."
Tracy and Phil were aware of the dangers of meeting up with someone
they had met online. But, for them, it couldn't have worked out
better.
Five months after meeting, Phil proposed and the couple married in
Edinburgh last Saturday.
Playing computer game landed me a husband Joan's tips for
staying safe online BEING sensible and taking proper precautions are the
keys to staying safe on the internet.
Always meet someone new in a well-lit, busy and public place. And
check out the venue beforehand.
Tell a friend where you're going and get them to ring you to
check you're OK.
Don't go back to the person's house, or get into their
car, or go somewhere quieter, or invite them back to yours until you
know them much better.
Introduce them to your friends before you get between the sheets.
In return, you must be completely honest, too. So don't use
photos taken years ago or forget to mention your four kids.
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IAIN IAIN And Info-Net HELENA Johnstone and husband Iain met on internet dating site Plenty of
Fish two years ago.
The couple, who are both 29, fell in love within hours of meeting
and now have a one-year-old daughter, Freya. She was even born on
Valentine's Day.
Helena, of Giffnock, Glasgow, said: "I joined Plenty of Fish
in October 2009. I'd just come out of a relationship and I was
feeling a little low. I was also 26 and a lot of my friends were hooked
up with people.
"I felt I was too old to go out and pick up guys, so I thought
I'd try internet dating."
Helena went on 10 dates over three months - before she struck lucky
on the 11th.
She had been chatting to Iain Johnstone, also from Glasgow, over
the Christmas holidays when they found themselves without a date on
Hogmanay.
Helena said: "We decided to meet for the first time. We had a
great night. We chatted for hours and drank whisky shots.
"It was that winter where the snow was really deep and he
couldn't get home so he came back to mine.
"We kissed for the first time at the Bells, then he came back
to my flat."
The next morning Helena found Iain had tucked her into bed after
she passed out the night before.
She said: "He ended up staying the whole day. Then we ordered
Chinese and he stayed the next night. We've been together ever
since."
Iain proposed to Helena that April and by the summer she found out
she was pregnant.
She said: "It was a bit of a shock, as we wanted to get
married first. But once we got over the surprise we were really
excited."
The couple got hitched on January 28. Helena said: "We had a
bit of an internet dating theme at our wedding. We had two laptops made
of icing on top of the wedding cake and the tables had an online dating
theme. We had a "winking winking /winking/ (wingking) quick opening and closing of the eyelids.
jaw winking Gunn's syndrome.
winking
quick opening and closing of the eyelids. " table, a "deleting" table
and a "lived happily ever" after table."
Helena says she's an advocate for internet dating and
can't praise it enough.
She said: "In my view, you're more likely to meet a
weirdo in a bar than online.
"I hate it when people say they won't try it. It's
just normal people, looking for love."
18% say they have met a partner online 3% have used a site that
promotes extra-marital affairs extra-71% of women say en they are honest
about themselves online 26% feel safe meeting people on the net 7%
don't feel safe e meeting people online e 87% of over 65s
wouldn't use online dating sites. Only eight per cent said
they'd feel safe online 40% have been on a date with someone who
wasn't honest about themselves online
CAPTION(S):
OPEN 3BOOK Can you be sure of honesty online? SONIAMCLAY SPLITJ
McLay and Murray HOOKED J Helena and Iain met on Plenty of Fish OFF-LINE
J Love the old-fashioned way LOVE NET ZWAR Tracy and Phil found love
