subject: Consider The Spirit Of Singleness [print this page] We live in a microwave societyWe live in a microwave society. People want everything now! Whether it is losing weight, developing friendships, or choosing a mate, people have seemingly dismissed the time factor. People have allowed their age, loneliness, and even suggestions from well-meaning loved ones to cause them to get in such a hurry to find the perfect one, that they become discouraged.
Many people think God has forgotten them. They think He does not care about their desire for marriage. The truth is, God knows everything you need, want, and desire. In fact, it was God that put the very desire for marriage within you; He will bring that desire to pass in due season.
Throughout life, we experience different seasons. Consider your time of singleness as preparation for the next season of your life. Preparation is essential in your taking advantage of opportunities in life, so be prepared! Do not just sit around wasting time, frustrated about being single. Act on your faith, and prepare yourself for the marriage you desire! So use this time as an opportunity to love yourself. I know it may sound cliche, but it's true. I can't tell you how many times I have seen people trying to love someone else, when they haven't even discovered how to love themselves; those marriages almost never work.
Do not allow your judgment to be clouded by TV, family members, or even fantasies you've created in your imagination. Marriage is much more than a picture perfect ceremony and wedding cake. Being married is work, and your success in marriage will depend on your success as a single person. Marriage is not a cure-all for your insecurities. If you are not content in your singleness, you won't be content in your marriage.
If you desire marriage, I encourage you to seek God first. Develop a strong, personal relationship with Him. He must be first before you can enjoy a relationship with anyone else. Fellowship with Him in the secret place. There, He will show you intimacy that no human being could ever show you. Once you have reached that place in Him, you will be content, fulfilled, and truly ready for the mate you desire.
I love you, and I pray the peace of God be over everything you desire.
