subject: How To Get Him To Propose - The Vital Thing You Must Never Do! [print this page] You and your guy have been together for many years but you are wanting to know how to get him to propose. You might have dropped countless hints but each time, he always seems to be able to evade the question. You even dread going to any family gatherings now as you know your family and friends will certainly ask you when you are planning to get married.
Does this circumstance seem familiar to you? So what can you do to make him pop the big question?
There are many stuff that women can and will carry out in an attempt to get their men to propose and one of such methods is "giving him a marriage ultimatum". If you have been thinking about giving him an ultimatum in order to "force" him to propose to you, don't! That is the last thing you would want to do and just as the word implies, you will seriously make him feel as though you are"forcing" him to marry you.
The fact is, using an ultimatum to get that engagement ring that you so badly wanted is the same as making an attempt at relationship destruction. Nevertheless, if you think that there is a genuine need to present him with such a "threat" or otherwise he will not commit to you, then you have to ensure that it is indeed an authentic request! If you don't mean it, then don't do it!
Oftentimes, for a woman who has been waiting for decades to get married, she is more likely to get frantic as time passes. This is very common because the waiting game can drive someone to desperation. Therefore, she is likely to start offering the boyfriend hints, that will before long lead to threats, in order to get some kind of commitment from him.
However, many women do not understand that an ultimatum delivered to your man is equivalent to giving him a "threat". To the guys, such "threats" are very pressurizing and as such, it will usually turn them off. That is why it is common to find that such attitudes will most likely end up with one result from the guys - a breakup. They would rather end the relationship than be forced into a marriage.
It is not that the men do not love you any longer but they are frightened of making a commitment to you. They may be feeling insecure and therefore do not know if they are all set for such a big responsibility.
So is an ultimatum ever appropriate? Only if you are ready to deal with the truth and can accept the response you might get from your guy! If you want to give your guy a session of "now or never", then you better be prepared to pack your luggage and leave should he decide on the "never" response.
You will simply lose your entire credibility in the relationship should you go back on your words and stay in the relationship. He will probably lose all respect he ever had for you and will never take your words seriously. Thus, prior to deciding to give your man a marriage ultimatum, be certain that you're ready to listen to the reality and act on the response, no matter what it may be.
