subject: How To Be Your Own Best Friend [print this page] Stop Leading a Destructive Way of Living Stop Leading a Destructive Way of Living
What means to be your own best friend? That question is probably the hardest nut to crack. But not impossible. Does it mean to give yourself what you desire? Does it perhaps mean that we lead a life in such a way that we get more and more in contact with ourselves and become free from attachment and dependence?
For example, if we drink, gambling and have sex uncontrollably in order to satisfy our own constant craving, does that makes us a good friend to ourselves? Does satisfying our own desires make us a friend to ourselves? No it doesnt. Living in such a way can bring nothing but despair, emptiness and regrets.
So we should first begin by changing our destructive patterns and change them into a beautiful melody and turn our life into an amazing experience. And the only way we can do that is by sacrificing some of our desires that holds us back and doesnt allow us to achieve our true potential.
So if we take a closer look at ourselves what can we see? Do we see someone who will sacrifice everything that needs to be sacrificed in order to achieve what he or she wants to achieve, or do we see someone who constantly undermines his own efforts in order to satisfy his greedy mind?
If we are true to ourselves its not hard to see that some of the things we do arent helping us.
Learn To Love Yourself
So whats the easiest way to overcome such destructive tendencies? What is the only thing that is missing that we want to fill by chasing all kinds of pleasures be it destructive or not? It is the love towards ourselves. If we learn to love ourselves we will make sure that every action we take will be for our own well-being.
So its not so much about overcoming destructive tendencies as much it is to learn to love yourself. When we begin to care deeply about ourselves we begin to avoid making mistakes that could lead us away from our goals and dreams.
So basically being your own best friend is directly related to loving yourself. It can also mean that you start to look for ways to make yourself feel good regardless of what other people are doing. It makes you begin to look for ways where you can express yourself in a positive and encouraging way as well as being creative and constructive with what you do.
Do What Makes You Feel Good Not What Makes You Money
Majority of us simply look for ways to make money so that we can survive. Some of us also look for ways to combine making money end being happy, while some of us look for activities that truly makes us feel good regardless if we make some money in the process or not.
Which group of people do you fall into? If you are the type number one you cannot expect to be very happy about it. If you fall into the group two and three you are on a good way to live a life in true happiness.
If you simply work for money without enjoying in the process you are strongly encouraged to rethink your strategy because living like that might just not give you any kind of happiness or satisfaction in your life at all.
