subject: The Truth About The No Contact Rule After A Break Up To Help Get Your Ex Back! [print this page] The no contact rule extends far beyond just cutting off communication with your ex girlfriend or simply disappearing from her life for a while. Yes, those two elements are part of the no contact rule after a break up, but that's not all there is to it.
The no contact rule works on many different levels. Some of these levels are on the surface and some levels of how no contact works goes much deeper than cutting off communication or having your ex miss you.
On the surface, no contact works in these ways:
Can help make your ex girlfriend miss you.
Makes your ex girlfriend wonder about you.
No longer boosts her ego by you chasing her anymore.
Keeps you from committing mistakes that will push her further away.
Will help to make her face the question whether the break up was the right decision or not.
The more deeper levels of how no contact works has very little to do with her. So many people are just concerned with what no contact does to an ex girlfriend. This is using no contact wrong.
The no contact rule on a deeper level has everything to do with you. It gives you the space away from her to heal and get rid of neediness and desperation. It gives you time to heal from all the emotion that encompasses a break up.
Getting rid of post break up emotions is extremely important. This is one major factor that many don't take care of during the no contact rule after a break up. They think all they need to do is drop off the face of the planet and that's it. Wrong! That's not all concerning how no contact works.
The tactic or stage of no contact also gives you time to find out why she may have broken up with you. The relationship did end for a reason, and she lost attraction for you somehow and somewhere down the line. This has to be rectified.
This tactic also allows you the time to better yourself. This doesn't mean you need to change who you are. It just means to work on becoming a better you. If you go back to her exactly the same way you were when she broke up with you, guess what?
