subject: Dad To Be - Points To Know [print this page] Isnt it mums that need a childbirth plan? Of course but if you want to be involved at this most precious time, you need to be prepared too. A little knowledge goes a long way in preventing surprises that leave you floundering.
Be a swot
First time around, its not easy to know what to expect. Listen when your partner talks about labour, look at any books, articles or websites that explain the steps, and note where you come in.
Action man
You need to be practical. How will you get her to hospital? You dont want to find the car is out of petrol, or you dont know the route, or youve lost the taxi companys number.
Get me to the ward on time
When to get going to hospital? Too early and youll either be sent home (demoralising) or end up hanging around for hours. Leave it too late, and all those nightmare scenarios with babies born onto the kitchen floor just might come true. Timing needs to be just right. Get in gear when:
- her waters break
- she talks of persistent lower back pain with cramp-like sensations
- contractions begin. This isnt a precise science. Many women experience practice (Braxton Hicks) contractions days before true labour begins.
Contractions to act on occur at regular intervals, become more frequent, and get longer and stronger. Time a contraction from the start of one contraction to the start of the next. Set off to the hospital once contractions are five minutes apart and last more than a minute.
Cool and collected
Its a womans world in that delivery room. You may feel like a spare part, but you can play a significant role for your partner and not just with encouragement. She may like her back rubbed, a damp flannel brought, music played or turned off, a drink, help with her breathing regime. If youd planned to take photos, or to ask to cut the cord, dont forget to do so.
Shes grateful really
Dont be surprised if in all the hard work, frustration and endless labour of childbirth, you as her nearest and dearest become the one on whom she dumps all the emotion. She might swear and complain, but will be grateful that youre there at her side.
A whole new life
Its over and baby has arrived. A busy and exciting time lies ahead, but first, the new mum still need caring for. Shes tired and needs rest make sure visitors dont stay too long. She may be hungry soon after childbirth, so you may need to provide food. Some mums feel shivery, so make her warm and comfortable.
Play your part
Mums role is key. Baby is the star. But Dads supporting role can make the whole event so much easier for mum, as well as starting off this amazing new relationship in the best possible way.
