subject: Get A Reality Check [print this page] Practice development for the reactions in terms of possible number of sources. Be sure to zero in areas where you can at least be able to bear the costs of the blind.
Study of reality, it's like going to the doctor to check. It is being discussed is not comfortable. This is an anxiety of waiting for test results, but at least you know what you are dealing with. If there is bad news, you're usually better position to know before it gets to exacerbate a potential problem.
You can get a reality check at any time you can test your assumptions about what is happening around you. For example, a company needs information on what customers really want. At work, you will need feedback from those who have the greatest impact on your success. At home, you need to know how people who are closest to you feel about yourself.
Get a reality check frequently to help you cut through your illusions and possibly be much better equipped to deal with what happens in reality. You get the chance to see if you're on the facts of reality in a way that can make you vulnerable to unnecessary damage.
While the study may actually be uncomfortable at first, and the process gets easier with time. When you familiarize yourself with what is really happening around you (rather than untested assumptions) to the reality of your relationship becomes more user friendly. You may find yourself fascinated by even the roads are often surprising than others to respond. This puts you in an ideal position to learn.
To participate in this type of learning enchanted, you have to remain open. This means release all defense so you can really take in the reactions. Then learning is more interesting.
Carla is the leader in sales of several million dollars in the same position after an earthquake completely new major organizational. Since the new position is very difficult, with an immediate reward, but they are less able to provide the highest level, she is not sure of the reasons for his manager to move to the new position.
Although this was a step sideways, they were not sure if it was intended to work as director of promotion or demotion. She did not know if it was placed in a new position because it meets its potential, or because he was not in some way. She chewed on this for weeks, when it became obvious that she needs a reality check.
She explicit conversation with his manager, where I asked her why and to clarify its view of its future. It was very reassuring to hear what has been invested so that the possibility of its leadership and saw this new position to provide the necessary challenges to the achievement of its development. Its director, also called the blind spot in their ability to cooperate. Carla was mixed response to the conversation at first, but soon absorbed this information. Helped to verify the reality of stability in his new role, with all my heart and challenges.
If you are proactive and get a reality check when you need, you'll be able to collect all the annoying blind spots. New information can help you test your assumptions, expectations and fears. This ensures that you are really on track thanks to the efforts of your best.
The work of the following steps:
1. The assessment of effects that need more than others. Look at the most strategic areas where the disparity of information is the greatest. Create a plan to get the feedback you need.
2. I wonder how your best friend can be your best friend.
3. We ask your husband or partner what you want most of you are rarely provided.
4. Ask your colleagues at work to get honest feedback on how you can contribute more effectively. Keep in mind that others will feel if you really want to hear the truth. In an attempt to make it safe for them. They need to know that you really want the truth and you are ready to hear things that may be uncomfortable.
5. If you are in a leadership position, and to contract with an executive coach or consultant to do some interviews for you. This is particularly important for sensitive labor relations. Here, the goal of a qualified third party be able to probe deeply and clearly. And target the most relevant issues, and bring them to the surface. A qualified coach be able to provide information in a way that allows you to both understand what is happening and develop an action plan to address the changes required.
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Barbara Bouchet worked, MED, BCC, point of contact for partners Premier intensively with leaders, managers and owners and business leaders from more than 25 years as head coach of the executive, and psychotherapist and facilitator group. It facilitates clear thinking, and communication solutions for high security, productivity and relationships, and effective conflict resolution, and strategic decision making and innovative business problems. Clients in the Fortune 100 companies and small and medium enterprises. A certified instructor of the Council, was formed by the College of Executive Coaching, and a member of the International Federation of the coach.
