subject: Texting And Dating: The Good, The Bad And The Ugly [print this page] Texting is the new activity of this generation. There are some good, some bad and some ugly aspects about texting that you should know before starting a texting relationship.
There are several points that you should understand that will ensure that a guy will text you back. Firstly, make sure you are not talking about pointless things. Has someone ever texted you with a trivial greeting and then never offered any additional conversation so that you wondered what the point of the text was? Many people are busy with jobs, school and family and do not have time to spend on trivial verbal exchanges over the phone in the form of text messages. If you are going to text someone, know what you are going to say ahead of time. Know a little about his interests, whether it be football, politics or art. Have something in common that you can communicate about.
Secondly, you could ask his opinion about something. Most of the time, guys like to be able to save the day for a girl or be the answer to the her problem, so ask him a question about something. For instance, if it happens to be around first of the year, you could ask him a question such as "Where is the best place to celebrate New Years Eve?" If he doesn't have an opinion, you could tell him that you and some friends are planning to go to where ever and ask him to come and bring some of his friends. In this case you have a specific reason for texting him, not just some random nonsensical message.
There are several pros and cons of texting while dating. Texting is good when you first meet someone and get their number, but you are quite nervous about calling. You just want to break the ice so you simply shoot them a text. You may have several short little texts sent between you and this is an amazing way to break the ice. But, if you are dating someone and trying to get to know them better, it will not work by texting. You should cut this habit off quickly.
If you have gotten into the habit of texting back and forth and then his responses become slower and he is not as eager to respond to you, this may begin to have an effect on your confidence. A texting relationship makes it very difficult and awkward when you have never actually had a conversation on the phone or in person. When you finally have the face to face encounter, it may seem very clumsy. You could become very accustomed to the delayed responses with the text messaging and find that if you are face-to-face you have to give an immediate response and you will be uncomfortable in your reactions. There is a balance between the two situations. Don't get so used to texting that it is your only means of getting to know someone.
What happens if a guy just stops responding to your texts? Don't ever let him give you the excuse that he didn't receive your message because no matter whether your phone is on or off, you always eventually receive the text messages. So if someone does not respond, stay calm and collected and just go about your day as usual with your other friends or activities. The worst thing you can do is to send multiple text messages asking what is going on. That is sure to turn a guy off as you appear to be clingy or needy. This is the last image you want to present of yourself. Basically, just remember that you have to have patience with his timetable to text you back.
If you are trying to get clarity about your relationship, or if you are trying to ask him a very important questions and you feel uncertain about doing it in person, even though it may seem to be easier to do it with a text, do not do it that way. That may make it easier for him to ignore the questions if he doesn't want to answer them or if he doesn't know what to say. This will put you in the position of having to wait and wait and in the end, he's not going to answer you unless he wants to. Remember that if you ask the important question in person, he has to answer you. In addition, text messages can be misinterpreted. You may be trying to ask something in a very polite way, but the way it is taken is completely wrong.
Just be very careful and aware of these strategies when texting and remember, it may be sensible just to pick up the phone and call or ask him to call you.
