subject: The #1 Reason Couples Stop Having Sex [print this page] Once you've gotten to know someone through a series of fun and cute dates, usually you get into a more relaxed routine of watching television together and ordering in. But, the first thing to go once those fun dates do, is the sex.
Many girlfriends have brought up this strange occurrence: they're on the couch, watching TV with their guy when out of the blue he says, "Want to have sex?." And the woman doesn't feel a darn thing in response. She loves the guy. She finds him attractive. But, this simply doesn't turn her on. It can make a girlfriend freak out, wondering if there's something wrong with her anatomy or if perhaps she's no longer attracted to her guy. But, it's actually perfectly normal! And it's not at all a sign that the attraction has diminished.
For females, being seduced is much more a mental thing than a physical one. But, not necessarily in the sense that the guy has to be brilliant, hysterical, sensitive etc. (that doesn't hurt) but rather, the girlfriend wants to feel that she got to show off her mind that night, as well. Why? Because she has to feel that she was the seducer.
My friend is a phenomenal voice coach and when she first began seeing her current boyfriend, he would often come watch some of her singing lessons after work. He was so turned on by how talented she was as a singer and at teaching people how to sing, and also by getting to see her do something she was passionate about, that he was always ready to go when they'd get home.
Now that they've been together for a while, the guy ran out of energy to stop by my friend's voice studio regularly, and she just meets him at home for dinner and a movie. My friend tells me she wishes she could get those days back when she'd get to shine like that in front of her man.
The reality is that, the majority of what turns a woman on is feeling that she turned you on! That she got to shine and show off what a charming, intelligent and funny individual she is and that's what revved up her man. Out in the world whether it be at a dive bar or 4 star restaurant a woman has the chance to do this. But, lounging on the couch with takeout boxes and reruns of Lost on doesn't provide much opportunity for a woman to do this. And that is why sex life can go out the window when dates do.
