subject: Avoiding Extramarital Affairs By Understanding Emotional Affairs [print this page] In our marriages today, we seem to see that we have many problems and distractions. When we talk about things that can tear apart a marriage, we all know a couple of these. First on this list is infidelity. It is however interesting to note that infidelity begins gradually. I then desire to address its starting point.
It's virtually unbelievable for someone to say they suddenly got caught up in infidelity. These things usually begin in the mind and then appears in the physical. It's therefore necessary to search out how this happens. When we understand the root cause, we can address the problem from there.
One thing that's very dangerous to a marriage is emotional affairs. Lot's of folks make the mistake of seeing it as nothing. Due to the lack of physical intimacy, this thinking is strengthened. You cannot have an emotional affair with a person for a considerable length of time without at some point wanting to enjoy some physical experience. This is the reason why it's dangerous. People may be surprised when the physical affair starts because they might not be aware of what has been going on.
The first thing you can do is evaluate your relationship with that your co-worker you are close to. Don't blow this off with the excuse that all you do is discuss, call, or text. You should be honest with yourself and look at what you talk about in your mind. Here's a simple litmus test. Can you let your partner listen in on your conversations or read the text messages you exchange with that individuals? If you won't like for your partner to listen in on your discussions or read your text messages then there's a problem.
If you give it some thought, you would agree that extramarital affairs mostly begins with a person giving a lot of attention to another. A person feels close or appreciated by someone outside their partner. This is only how it all starts and this is what we refer to as emotional affair. Extramarital affairs would greatly reduce if folks are more aware of emotional affairs and avoided them.
One important thing to know is the danger of taking your marriage challenges to others for solution. Your determination to fix your marriage by yourselves gives you little or no time to get involved in emotional affairs.
It's very critical that you take note of the process you go through as you attempt to fix your marriage. It may sound odd when I say that there are folks who've found themselves in an emotional affair and maybe even involved in infidelity only because they wanted to repair their marriage.
You might have seen an individual spending a lot of time talking about their marriage problems with a colleague just for them to begin to get close as a result of the talks. There are lot's of ways that emotional affairs can begin. You have to be extra careful to stop it.
When there is a need to talk to someone, your best option is consulting a certified marriage therapist. You would be talking with a trained personnel and can be certain that you would find the assistance you require.
No matter how it comes, don't allow yourself be trapped in an emotional affair. I am sure you understand the harm that can come from emotional affairs.
