subject: Better Conversations Lead To Better Chances [print this page] It does not matter if you want to admit it or not, the fact of the matter is that if you really want to have better chances with the women you meet, then you are going to have to learn how to have better conversations. Being that you may not be used to having conversations that flow easily when you are around a woman you like, it may be difficult for you to think that one day it may be so. I can relate to this because there was a time when I too, felt that way. It used to be hard for me to really feel comfortable when I was talking to a woman that I wanted really badly to click with. A lot of that had to do with the fact that I would end up feeling as though I had to say the most wonderful thing to sweep a woman off her feet and if I felt like I did not have anything magical like that in my mind, it would feel like I did not have a chance at all. That does not mean that it truly was this way, it's just the way that I perceived it.
I don't think that I am alone in feeling that way.
In fact, I already know that I am not because I have talked with many guys who can totally relate to getting that feeling. If you are the kind of guy who tends to think things through to the point of it being overkill, then I am sure that you know exactly what I mean by saying that you feel like you need to have the perfect thing to say and if you don't, then you feel like you don't have any chance at all. What I have learned and what so many guys who used to be that way have also learned is... you need to let go of the idea that you have to be perfect around a woman you like. Even if you feel like you want to make the best impression that you possibly can, you have to remind yourself that there is no need to be perfect and even if you don't have anything magical to say to a woman, you can still have a pretty good chance of making her feel as though she is attracted to you.
What makes for a good conversation with a woman is the ease at which it flows.
This is one time in your life where you really don't want to feel like you have to put in a massive effort. When you feel that way, you are most likely going to put too much stress on yourself and you really don't need that. Not only will it have a negative effect on you and your end of the conversation, but it will probably rub off on her as well. And if there is one thing that can make attraction die out very fast, it is when you make a woman feel uncomfortable when she is around you. So, work on making it seem effortless and easy when you are talking to a woman. The last thing that you need to do is to add pressure where none needs to be added.
Most of the time, I find that any conversation that relies on a little bit of laughing and getting to know the woman you are talking to is going to be all you need to make her feel attracted to you. You don't need to be on stage, feeling like you are being judged by her and you have to perform. You just need to make her laugh a little bit here and there and also let her know that you really want to get to know her. Not only is that impressive to a woman, but it will also make the conversation on your end seem easier, because she will take on some of the talking and you can just do some listening.
