subject: Sex Toys to Enhnace a Difficult Relationship [print this page] Over the years, I have observed a common trend with women, not all ladies but a sizeable portion of the female population, they seem to be very insecure physically and sexually because they're not using sex toys. I think these insecurities lead ladies to do some negative things in and to their relationships. Women, you need to empower yourselves. Love your body (it is the only one you own), get informed about what you like and don't like sexually and learn that your sex life is meant to be enjoyed. It is very important to remember that talking is the key to any great relationship and a sexual relationship is no different. Everyone has insecurities but they don't have to interfere in a healthy relationship. Talk to your partner about the insecurities you have, work on them and get ride of them, or at least get them at a reasonable level. Maybe try using sex toys. This can help boost confidence and give your love life a cheeky boost.
Here are a few tips to help you become the woman you and your partner would like you to be, a confident woman who doesn't focus on your (or his) previous relationships and a woman who communicates not criticizes:
1. Know you are a goddess! Show that confidence. It is very intoxicating to a partner if you demonstrate how confident you are about yourself and your sexual techniques and sex toys. Guys love it when ladies aren't insecure about themselves or their relationships. If you do not quite believe you are a goddess yet, try to wear things that make you feel sexy and confident, go get a makeover at the salon, get your nails done and keep telling yourself you are a sexy goddess until it becomes a reality for you. Just remember to keep doing things that make you feel good about yourself. Get a hobby or an activity that is all your own. That will help build confidence as well. It also shows your partner that you have your own interests outside the relationship.
2. Ladies stop asking your men about previous girlfriends and the sexual acts they performed on your man. It only leads to feelings of jealousy and that has no place in a healthy relationship. The same goes for you, stop telling him about your ex-boyfriends and what things they may have done for you sexually or how many times a day you did it, etc. Guys don't want to feel like they are being compared just like you don't want to drive yourself crazy thinking about everything his ex did with him and trying to live up to some standard you have created in your mind. You were not there you couldn't possibly know what they were like together and besides there are reasons these people are ex-boyfriends/ex-girlfriends let it go and do not bring the toxic feelings about your ex's into your current relationship. Your boyfriend is with you, not them, start fresh and leave those ex's in the past were they belong. Just try using vibrators. It might spice things up!
3. Never criticize your boyfriend's efforts in the bedroom. Criticizing is a way of telling him he is not doing things the way you want them done. This can be very hurtful and one of the biggest turn-offs to the person who is being criticized and also often leads to resentment. It maybe true that you are not getting the results you want in the bedroom but criticizing him about it isn't the way to fix it. Instead be direct and communicate with your partner. It is not his fault he doesn't know what you like if you haven't told him already in no uncertain terms. Tell him what you want and how you want it. He is then not left guessing about where he stands in his abilities and he doesn't feel stupid because you belittled him about his technique.
Remember don't be so hard on yourself, enjoy your body, love your life, don't try to be someone you are not and above all else try to be happy about anything and everything as much as possible.
