It hurts; I know how you're feeling. She's moved on and you're still thinking about her. Is it hopeless? The answer is a definite "no." If you move fast enough, you can save a relationship after a breakup, no matter how messy your parting was.
Did She Breakup With You?
When a woman initiates a breakup, she's been thinking about it for some time. This is the time when you need to take a step back and analyze your situation.
-If she broke up with you because you cheated, you need to get in contact with her soon.
-If your breakup was something more in the lines of "she needs some space" or "you'll always be a friend", it's time to step back for a month or so.
Plan For Second Contact
Sooner or later you'll need to contact her again. (I'm assuming that you followed a no-contact rule for at least 30 days). But it must be done subtly.
How do you do that?
Depending on your situation, here are a couple of ways. Give her a call, she's probably not going to answer, and leave her a message. Tell her that you're going to be in the area in a few days and if she wants to get some coffee. Notice how it's "a few days", nothing certain, and it's just for coffee. Say it like it's no big deal.
If you're on Facebook, don't update your page for about a month and take on a new challenge that would surprise her. Go on a trip or take some surfing lessons. Go and have a good time and post some pics on Facebook. Let her contact you from your intriguing pictures.
Now What?
So you're in contact with your ex and she wants to "catch up" on things, what do you do now?
Give the impression that everything is going good with you. Do not mention anything about your separation or how you want some answers, OK?
If she brings anything up, tell her that it's actually a blessing in disguise because you wouldn't have some of the opportunities that came to you.
Be vague about it and don't answer her questions directly. Change the subject or tell her that you have to run and you'll talk to her later.
What If She's With a New Man?
These are just the beginning steps towards your ultimate plan at winning your girl back, no matter if she's with a new man or not.
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