subject: What If You Are Not Really Over Your Former Girlfriend? [print this page] You don't always just get over someone that you were once very much in love with, do you? It's not like you can just wipe the slate clean and start again. No matter what, you are still going to think about your former girlfriend and you are going to have feelings for her, even if you try your best to ignore them or to shut those feelings out. Would it be fair for you to date someone else if that is the way that you feel? Can you still feel like you are in love with her and date someone else?
Of course, it is physically possible to do this. Just because you harbor feelings for another, it does not mean that you are physically restricted from dating another woman. It may not be that healthy for you to do this, though. Quite often, when a guy feels like he is still in love with an ex girlfriend, it is going to get in the way of him being able to have a healthy relationship with the next woman that he dates. And a lot of times it leads to a guy ending up with a woman that reminds him of his ex girlfriend. That is not always a good thing.
What you should do is get over your former girlfriend first. That way, you are not bringing any emotional baggage into the next relationship that you are trying to have. And, if you do feel like you are in love with your ex girlfriend and you decide to date someone, then you should try to be as casual as you can and let the woman that you are dating know that you are just not in a place where you can have a serious relationship right now.
Plenty of guys will try to act like it does not matter that they still have feelings for an ex girlfriend, and then somehow those feelings seem to come back around at the wrong time and mess up the new relationship that they are in. You don't have to let things become an emotional mess like that, you can instead try to get over the feelings that you have for your ex girlfriend before you try to get into another serious relationship. That way, you don't have to wonder if you are ready for a new relationship.
You will be ready and that is all that really matters in the end. So, if you still feel like you are in love with your ex girlfriend, deal with that first before you try to get into a serious relationship again. And until you really get there, there is nothing wrong with being a little more casual, as long as you let the woman know what's up.
