subject: Would You Want To Possess More Self Confidence
[print this page] Leaning self confidence comes naturally to some folks, if you're like me and are not one of those blessed ones, then you have to set a goal and build a plan to reach it to have more self confidence. Luckily, self confidence is a skill-set that you can learn to develop just like riding a bike or driving a car or truck.
Let's say your goal was to be able to drive a car/truck and to be able to go where ever you like to. The very first time you turned on the ignition was probably one of the most frightful and exciting time. But to drive on the freeway at 65 mph or to merge in and out of traffic, first you have to be taught how to drive on surface streets. To really break it down, one of the first step to learning to drive at all would be learning about the functions of a car. You have to know what gear you have to be in. Then, the first time you drive might be in an big empty parking lot where there aren't a lot of people around that may be in your way. Then as you get more confidence behind the wheel, you can attempt to drive on low traffic streets, then on bigger streets with other people on the streets. After spending hours behind the wheel you will definitely acquire more confidence in driving and will be able to drive at full speed on the highway.
Building self confidence in public speaking or in dating or in performing is the same. Set your goal and develop a plan and actions to achieve that goal.
The goal of self confidence in dating:To build dating confidence: Begin with talking. Whoever you come across during the day, talk to them. order: :2:3:The store clerk. The point is to get used to talking to the opposite sex, just say hi and ask how their day is going. Try hanging out with that special person at a group event. It will be much less unnerving for both of you when you are just doing something with the whole group. The next step will be to going on some double dates. This is a more intimate setting where it feels more like a date. Being comfortable with him or her is the key. Going to more dates with give you confidence with dating. They also care about you and will give you positive encouragement, this will definitely increase your confidence to perform more. Ask them for critiques to help you in the future. Next, try to find a karaoke bar or a club with open mic night. You can now get up on stage and perform in front of small groups of people. They usually have had a few drinks and/or are in a amiable mood. Performing in front of these people is easier. Find a local pub and get an opening there. These people are looking for food and entertainment. Since it is a pub or restaurant, they are not all only watching you, making it less unnerving. You will acquire more confidence as you do more performances.
