No matter how you want to say it, it all means the same thing- ENOUGH.
For years, I have been scratching my head as couples marry and then un-marry. For years, I have sat back and watched people go their separate ways over simple, fixable, resolvable problems. For years, I have been baffled as seemingly great marriages fell apart without notice. For years, I have even questioned if my own marriage could survive, because how can my marriage ,which is mediocre at times, survive if great marriages are falling apart? And now, most recently, I have been hearing more and more about people who have been married for 20+ years now calling it quits. But Today, I will not sit around and watch. Today, I will not turn the other way. Today, I will not hide in the closet and wonder if my marriage has a fighting chance. Today, I say Enough!
Enough already! No More! No Mas!
What is going on with our society to where we have dumbed down the sanction of marriage to the point where we feel that we can just part for no reason at all? What can possibly be taking place between two people that would allow them to struggle together through their younger years, grow together through the mid-life, and then part ways when they should be living the so-called Good life?
What is going on? What is happening? Do we not realize the world was build on marriage and unity? Do we not know that Marriage is the foundation of our society? Do we not know that unity and marriage are the fibers to which our universe exist. So, what do we think is going to happen when marriage becomes extinct?
What would happen to a house if you snatched the foundation from underneath it? The entire house will crumble. So it is with our families, communities, societies, nations and the world. If we allow marriages to be dumbed down to the point where they are no longer significant, then we will not need to be challenged by war with another so-called super-power. We will become our own enemy and we will implode as a nation. Enough already!
We are in trouble and it is time for someone to say something about it before it is too late. So, today I say Enough.
Today, I say that it is time for us to put marriage back into its rightful place. It is time that we re-define marriage before we say I do and we remember and discuss its true purpose before we say I dont.
Today is the day. We can either continue down this pathway that would lead to nothing good or we can change directions and return to the path were righteousness presides. Today is the day.
First, I want to charge you...
1. If you are married, commit to stay married.
2. If there has been a major event that took place in your life (children left home, spouse sick, lost job, etc.) communicate and refocus. You can not continue down the same road with the same mindset when major events take place. You have to change your mindset.
3. If you are in relationship with a married person that is not your spouse, cut it off. Stop it.
4. Find a challenge or goal in life that will exceed your life time. With all the money that Bill and Melinda Gates has, one of the things that has kept them together is they found a common enemy (providing medical and food to third world countries) that they know they will not be able to defeat in their lifetime. If your challenge was to get more money, what would happen when you finally had more money? You will lose focus on whats important and start fighting each other or feel that you have nothing else in common and go your separate ways. Find a big enemy and go after it.
5. Have fun. I have never, never ever, ever seen someone get married because they were having fun. This is the key to staying together- having fun.
Enough!
Second, I want to remind you...
1. Relationship go up and down, while they are growing. So, dont be angry that your relationship sometimes go down. It means that it is living and growing.
2. Marriage is the most challenging relationship, but it is the most rewarding one. Stay in there.
3. True love is not about what someone else can do for you. True love is displayed when you are so focused on what you can do for someone else.
4. You are supposed to be different. Dont separate because you are different. If you werent different, then why would you need to get married?
5. Marriage is work. Just like a job, if you stop working, you stop getting paid. When you stop getting paid, you are not able to enjoy a lot of things. When you stop working on your marriage, you are no longer able to give and you no longer are able to reap the benefits.
Enough!
Third, I want to encourage you...
1. Love your spouse like they are the best thing in the world.
2. Respect and honor your spouse.
3. Never give up. Even if that means getting counseling, moving to a different state, changing jobs, whatever! One of the greatest things you can do is focus and stay committed to your marriage.
4. Encourage others to stay marriage. When you see a couple struggling, intervene. Point them in the right direction. By them marriage books and materials that would help them. Take them out on the town for a day of clean, good fun.
5. Find out the purpose of marriage, re-establish your foundation, creates some disciplines in your marriage, and make some goals (5, 10, 15, 20, 25, 50 years) for marriage and do whatever it takes to meet them.
Enough!
Lastly, I want you to join with me in the fight against separation and divorce. Today, lets all say ENOUGH!
Pass this article on to every couple you know , especially those contemplating divorce. Make YouTube videos using this information. Tweet someone to read this. Post this on Facebook. Send it to your co-workers, family members and friends. Make t-shirts and hats with ENOUGH on them. Whatever creative ideas you can think of, lets do it.
This is where the extinction of marriages and astronomical divorce rates stop. Today, we say enough. Not only does our society and nation depend on it, the future of the coming generations do as well. Taking a stand is not an option, it is necessary.
