subject: Five Simple Tips On How To Have An Affair And Keep It A Total Secret [print this page] How can you keep your extramarital affairs a secret from your wife? The truth is, it's not easy to keep a secret, even with mundane things. Things just have their own way of unfolding by themselves. However, with the right attitude, discipline and thoroughness you might just pull it off. To put it bluntly, no one can really be sure about their future, and sometimes no matter how we wish things to happen they don't always go as planned.
Having an affair is a risky thing, and if you don't have guts, you'll miss out on all the glory. If you think you're ready to take the huge risk, then make sure you follow these tips to minimize the chances of the affair going public.
1. Let go of any feelings of guilt
You will have to lie to your spouse often if you're having an affair. You have to be a really good liar in order to get yourself out of tight situations.
There will be times when your spouse will have to ask you why you're coming home late. If you can't convince them with your explanations they might become suspicious.
Also, if you're a person that can be easily swayed by guilt then cheating on your spouse probably isn't for you. Imagine jumping into deep water when you don't know how to swim. That's how it's going to be if you don't possess enough mental and emotional toughness.
2. Be a good planner
When you start meeting affair partners, you have to find time in your already busy schedule to accommodate the meetings. If you're not able to properly plan, then you might begin to miss on some important occasions, disrupting the flow of your orderly life.
Sooner or later, your spouse will notice your unusual conduct and might start snooping around. Therefore, in order to keep it discrete, arrange your schedules properly so that even though you steal some moments to be with someone else, you still maintain a normal, unhurried pace.
3. Take control of your affair
Set limitations in the affair and make sure the other person understands and agrees with them. Important limitations should be placed on the number of times you will have to meet, because whether you like it or not you can't be with your affair partner all the time.
Also, you have to make sure the affair partner understands their place in your life and that they can't expect you to really care for they the way you care for your 'real' partner.
In other words, you have to make them understand that both of you should avoid ideas of commitment. After all, the point of the affair is to have fun and not to invite unwarranted complications.
4. Don't leave any trace of your affair
You should avoid coming home directly after having sex with the other person. Take your time to clear your body and your clothes of any marks from your lover.
A lipstick mark or hair strand on your suit is incriminating evidence. Even the scent of another persons perfume or cologne can be risky. Be sure, you can take a shower first and change into other clothes before going home.
Also, if you're using your car to have a quicky, be sure to clean your car: no used condoms, no underwear, nada!
5. Delete the history of your PC
If you're using your PC to access the services of married affair sites, make sure you delete the history of your browser before you shut down your computer.
If you find this too inconvenient, you can install software that does this for you. With the software, you can be sure no confidential files will be left "open" for your spouse to "accidentally" stumble upon.
Also, make sure that you don't share your email password with your spouse. They might become suddenly curious about your email account and browse its contents without your knowledge.
In order to keep your marriage happy you have to keep your extramarital affairs hidden no matter what it takes. Even though married affair sites are virtually safe, if you're not extra careful you could commit mistakes that will lead to the discovery of your affair.
Following these simple tips will guarantee that you can keep your extramarital affairs totally a secret from your spouse.
