subject: Marriage Counseling - The Consequences Of Emotional Affair [print this page] The breakup of a marriage cannot be an instant occurrence. Little things usually lead up to the massive breakup. When these issues are not tackled, in spite of how little you may suppose they are, they eventually become major enough to result in an outright dissolution of a once loving relationship.
Our concern today is emotional affair with a member of the opposite sex outside of your spouse. There are persons who think there's nothing wrong in this simply because they feel there is no physical intimacy taking place. It has been shown that about 50% of these affairs result in physical intimacy.
We need to go back to the beginning by asking this question. What do we understand by emotional affair? We call an affair an emotional one when it does not involve physical intimacy but is more about emotional intimacy.
To have an affair like the one defined above outside of your marriage, you would concur that a lot of emotional investment would need to be made. Being caught up in an emotional affair and not seeing anything wrong with it is a huge concern. A lot of these types of people are more often than not in denial.
If you would ever find a person who had this issue but overcame it probably with the help of marriage counseling or other means, they most times have this common thing to confess. There was in most cases a guilty feeling inside them. They easily knew they were being unfaithful to their partners. This feeling of guilt would many times reveal itself as an expression of anger anytime the subject of the affair is brought up.
A marriage can be slowly ruined by an affair such as this. Due to this, there's a need to face it immediately it is suspected.
Another question begging to be asked is this. Why would a married person get involved in this in the first place?
This type of affair can easily crop up when there is no real communication between the couples. If a spouse gets more attention from a "friend" than they get from his or her spouse, then this could result in an emotional affair.
Everyone needs some amount of emotional companionship and satisfaction. When this is non existent in the home, a partner could search for it outside. The danger in this kind of affair is that it starts as an innocent friendship.
What is the answer to this?
It is commonly said that to be forewarned is to be forearmed. It may not always be easy, but we should be ready to make the effort if we really care about our marriage. When communication starts to dwindle in a marriage, all possible should be done to reactivate it. When communication is non-existent, every other thing can come in.
Satisfying emotional needs is almost certain when there is good communication between a couple. Note, we said "proper communication". When there is real communication, any issue can be brought up and resolved.
There is one thing I know that may help keep couples away from emotional affairs. Never stop bringing up issues about your partner. Whenever that friend comes to give attention, because you want to keep your marriage, always talk to him or her about the great character your partner possesses.
Constantly talking well about your partner to that individual would likely protect you from further intimacy. If there is anything thing you should take away from here, it is that your marriage need quality communication to thrive.
