subject: How To KEEP Women After You Meet Them [print this page] Ever wonder why sometimes everything goes GREAT with a girl at first,but then after the second date/meeting all of her interest in youseems to have vanished? Then to make matters worse, she then proceedsto ignore your phone calls and/or text messages, or responds sayingthat she is too busy to hang out and straight up blows you off!
It's BS isn't it? You followed the game and did everything right whenyou first met her, she was really digging you and the two of you mayhave even gotten physical. So why for no apparent reason has herattitude towards you done a full 180?
I've coached hundreds of men with this exact problem, and well over90% of the time the problem lies in the lack of what I call"Congruency Escalation". Men who have problems holding the interestof women all seem to have this trait in common; the can not remain
congruent with the initial image of themselves that they displayedto the women, and also lack the ability to escalate the image toenforce it and prove that they ARE the type of guy that they led thewomen to believe.
To put it simply, you are being a "let down" on the second datebecause you weren't as fun or cool as you were on the first date. Thetruth is, you need to be even MORE cool than you were at first,because that is where the "escalation" part comes in. If you can't do
that, then women will always lose interest in you very quickly,regardless of how physically attracted to you that they may be.
This is because when you first meet a woman and make an impression onher, you are then fully bound to LIVE UP TO that impression. If duringyour first meeting you make her believe that you are the coolest guyshe has ever met, then you've better be even cooler during the seconddate. If you fail to live up to the standards that you set yourselfwhen you met her, it is game over.
So many men that I talk to and train on a daily basis place all oftheir focus and energy on meeting new women and the "first encounter"that they use up all of the best and most impressive things aboutthemselves right away in an attempt to close the deal and get her
number or get laid. What happens after that is the women comes tomeet with them a second time, and the man has nothing new to impressher with and is either stuck talking about the same stuff she alreadyknows or doing the same stuff he did during the first encounter. Thisleave ZERO room for escalation, and completely disrupts thecongruency of the image that the man initially displayed.
If a woman expects you to be this mysterious, cool guy that is always going to surprise her and continually impress her with how interestingyou are, then you've better be prepared to actually BE that guy andback it up. If you can't, then you should not have given her thatimpression in the first place.
The ironic part about all of this is, in most cases it is the mantrying too hard to be perfect that ends up ruining everything.Chances are the woman would have been into you just as much if youwould simply act normal and set REAL expectations for her rather thanattempting to appear to be someone that you are not. That way, youleave yourself a whole lot of "head space" to escalate her view ofyou as you move upward and become even more intriguing.
When her expectations are of you are sky high, all that you are goingto do is let her down.
If you want to experience long term success with women, you need tounderstand that true game is not the act of pretending to be someonethat you are not, but rather the act of being REAL at first, thenblowing her away continually as time goes on. That is how you make awoman fall in love with you. Lying and giving false impressions willget you nowhere.
I hope this bit of free info helps a lot of you guys!
