subject: Succeed at Dating - Why You Must Stay Cool to Get That Guy [print this page] For many women in today's society a lack of dating success seems to be the norm. We may not struggle to meet a guy but we rarely seem to make it to the commitment stage. One of the primary reasons why we don't seem able to succeed at dating is our inability to stay cool during dating. Unfortunately dating tends to expose our emotional wounds. If you regularly lose your cool in dating and relationships, its time to get a grip. If you want to get that guy you need to learn to control yourself and stay cool. Here's why:
As a woman, when dating, it's easy to fall for a guy that we've just met and are attracted to. Often, carried away by our emotions and the fact that we feel good, we jump straight in to a relationship without too much thought of his suitability or whether he would make a good partner. Such indiscrimination isn't a good idea. It won't help you get that guy and it just isn't cool.
A man won't feel comfortable if you immediately throw yourself into a relationship with him, without taking your time to check him out first. It shows the lack of value that you place on yourself if you're just willing to accept the first guy who comes along. That is why allowing him to chase you is so much more than a psychological dating game. He won't respect or value you if you're too easy to catch. If you want to succeed at dating, stay cool, hold back and show him what a quality woman you are.
Another problem which affects our dating success is that we tend to go through periods of uncertainty during dating which can bring out our worst negative emotions. A guy will often feel uncomfortable with a woman's emotions especially if he doesn't know her too well. Often we lose our cool because we feel that we are losing him. Generally this is not the case but past experience tells us that it is. If you unleash these emotions on him, that's when you lose him. If you can stay cool, and wait for him to come after you, you will probably be able to ride it out.
We are always going to encounter problems during dating. It's all part of the process of getting to know each other. How you handle these problems will affect your dating success. When issues arise, hold back. Don't cling to him at all costs. That is the quick way to lose him. Stay cool and don't lose your emotional balance. You must stay cool to get that guy. If you knew that staying cool could keep you the guy, but losing it would lose him too would this make it easier?
Succeed at Dating - Why You Must Stay Cool to Get That Guy
