subject: Complaining Kills Your Motivation Drive [print this page] Complaining is a Motivation KillerComplaining is a Motivation Killer. Period. When we complain we are basically externalising the blame subconsciously and what we are telling ourselves often without realising it is that it is the party that caused the problem has the power or ability to reverse it and make things right. This is the reason why you will find people endure unsatisfactory situations for years, complain nonstop about how unfair things are and yet do absolutely nothing to change their situation. The reason for this is that on a subconscious level, they do not believe that they have the power to change the situation as they have not caused it in the first place of had any part whatsoever in bringing about the adverse situation.
By complaining, persistent focus is kept on the problem and this increase the negative emotions we feel. People who focus on the problem tend to repeat the problem to themselves and anyone else who will listen not realising that every time we recall the event, we evoke negative emotions within us and give more and more energy to those emotions. The simple and sometimes unfair fact of life is this you can blame everyone and everything (and Ill even throw in the proverbial kitchen sink) for how unfair your life is, the opportunities you dont get, the networks you dont have and the money thats not in your bank account. Until you get off your backside and start doing something about it, nothing will change, you will not see the opportunities when they come as you are still in blame-mode, you wont get the right networks as quite frankly no one likes the company of a wet towel, and the that money will remain forever elusive.
If you cannot change the circumstance, then you must change in order to overcome that circumstance. The sooner you start working towards changing the situation, the sooner things will change, however, the longer you spend complaining and blaming, the longer it takes for things to change, if at all.
Furthermore, complaining has some interesting but negative consequences. Needless to say, not only does it develop a toxic mind set in the victim but even more serious is the fact that it potentially colours everything else. Oftentimes when we complain, we tend to superimpose that negative emotion on everything and everyone else around us, thus making things and people appear worse than they actually are, as we suddenly begin to notice more and more issues to complain about. The more attention and energy we give to this action, the more negative our emotional profile becomes and this does not make matters better, only worse.
Heres the scary thing like any action performed consistently for years, complaining and blaming eventually can become such a strong habit that it completely colours how the individual sees life, and as a result, fundamentally affects the degree of success or failure they experience.
