subject: Find The Right Person For You [print this page] If you are like most people, you want to find the right person to include in your life. For many people, that's all they know. Different advice abounds in the dating world, and it can be difficult to know which is right and whos to trust. Should you try on your own, or perhaps seek the help of dating agencies? Relationship experts do tend to agree on the basics when it comes to looking for the right individual with which to share your life.
Honesty First And Always
This applies to the person doing the searching as well as to the one they are hoping to find. Before you even begin searching for the right person, make an honest assessment of your wants and needs. Unfortunately, some folks do not take this first step, and this leads to them wasting time and risking a broken heart. Ideally, at least three of your priorities should be considered.
1. Do you want to truly settle down and begin a family, or do you secretly only want a casual and carefree romance?
2. Are finances an issue for you, and if they are not, do you honestly want to get involved with someone for whom they are?
3. How important are your religious or spiritual beliefs? The more dedicated a person is to one faith or tradition, the less likely they are to be happy with someone who does not share the same belief system.
Addressing these questions honestly will give you insight into your own self. It will also guide you in your search for the right person.
Look In The Right Places
Once you know what you want in a relationship, make sure you are searching for your potential mate in the right places. For instance, if church or spiritual pursuits are an integral part of your life, you probably should avoid the local pubs while looking for your ideal partner. Adults rarely change their basic patterns of behaviour, and actions speak louder than words. Where a person spends much of their free time says a lot about their beliefs and goals in life.
Dating agencies are increasingly popular, and there are good reasons for this. If you choose a dating agency, you can specify exactly the kind of person you are interested in meeting. You might also find that people who sign up with a dating agency are truly interested in finding a long-term partner.
Change Is Good To A Point
Sometimes people enter a relationship thinking they can change the person. This is neither healthy nor realistic. It makes more sense to take the time beforehand and seek out the right person to begin with, rather than take a chance and try to mould someone into the ideal mate.
