subject: Breaking Up With Your Partner Is Not Easy [print this page] The sad fact is that when your relationship does turn sour, one of you must take the reins and initiate the break up stage. Many relationships continue on in this type of sour state for much longer than necessary, just for the simple reason that breaking up is hard to do.
Break ups can involve drama such as personal items being thrown around or outside the house. And on the other side of things, break ups can vanish quietly the moment someone mentions the end. The big question is, how do you end it without hurting your partner?
Start off by having a clear reason on why you want to end the relationship. Give it some real thought and make sure that it's not just the first thing that springs to your mind. Once you are sure on the real reason behind the break up, ensure that you are honest.
Being honest to not only your partner but to yourself as well is important. Plan a time that is best for both of you to end the relationship. And if the relationship isn't long distance, it will always be better to break up in person opposed to email or texting. Try not to make your ex start to defend themselves. Mention that you have grown from your time together and that you will have many great memories.
Be as supportive as you can and get ready for your partner to become emotional. In the process of breaking up, don't take anything to heart. In the heat of the moment, things may be said that are not really meant.
Your partner may need some time to process the split. The best thing you can do is to give them what they need to understand that the relationship has ended.
Once the relationship has ended, you may wonder whether this is really the end, or whether you have that option to reconnect. Rekindling the romance is really up to you. Many couples have gotten back together after a break up when both parties come to an agreement.
And if you decide that the break up was a mistake, know that with a little effort, it is possible to rebuild your relationship. But if you have made up your mind to end the relationship, be ready to follow through and move on.
