subject: Relationships Are Always Going To Have Their Ups And Downs [print this page] There is one thing that does seem to be kind of predictable about relationships and that is - they are always going to have their ups and their downs. You can't expect to always be perfectly happy in your relationship and you do have to expect that there are going to be times when you are not really that happy with the way that things are going. Of course, you hope that there are going to be many more good times than there are bad ones. That is something that I think goes without saying.
However, that does not mean that you should expect there to always be problems in a relationship or to feel like there is nothing that you can do to prevent most of them from occurring. More often than not, the biggest problems that people have stem from a lack of understanding one another. They may not understand that the other person expects them to behave in a certain way. Or they may not understand it when the person that they are with gets their feelings hurt over something that they have said. Misunderstandings often lead to many of the problems and the arguments that couples seem to have in their relationships.
A good way to combat this is to take the time to try and understand the person you are with. Understand what it is that they want to experience and what they fear. Understand that they might have slightly different expectations or "rules" that they think people should live by in their relationships. It's not that hard to get an understanding of the person that you are with, even if that means that you are still going to get surprised by them from time to time.
It does take an effort and that is something that I don't think everyone is really able to give. You should be aware of this when you are dating. You should be aware of the fact that not everyone is able to step outside of themselves for a while and see where the other person is coming from. And because they are not able to do this, it may be really hard to have a relationship with them because it will be hard to deal with any problems that may come up.
Relationships are always going to have their ups and their downs and I think that is okay as long as you are willing to deal with them and prepare for them and allow them to leave you better off in the end.
