subject: Ways To Save Your Relationship. [print this page] Now, while you may not believe me as of the moment, but when you choose your words relatively carefully, you will get on the front foot with your relationship and enter the power position. Your ex will feel an irresistable compulsion to return your call.
Brilliant if it can work, isn't it? And it does work.
This would solve one of the big tough problems in fixing a relationship.
First of all, here's how NOT to get your ex to return your calls.
Be pathetic.
"Steve, I have been calling and calling. What's wrong with you? I beg you, I really need to talk to you"
Big deal- if Steve doesn't think there's something in it for him to talk to you, he is not going to rush at the phone.
In the same way: "Sue, something horrid has happened. I need to get in contact with you"
Unless of course something really really horrible for both of you has really happened, don't hold your breath on this one.
You need to work on the type of human feelings that get your ex going.
What are they?
Simple, curiousity and self interest.
Yep, what is going on and what is in it for me.
So a communication like "Steve, it is a shame I missed you. I just want to thank you personally for what you did. That was great. Call me back, so I can thank you in person"
Mind you, when good ol' Steve rings back, you'd better have something concrete and plausable to thank him for or you will do more damage than good.
You have to have a plan or your initiative will be wasted.
