subject: Another Submission Misconception [print this page] THE SPIRIT OF SUBMISSION THE SPIRIT OF SUBMISSION
Well how does this stuff play out on the rugged plains of reality? How does this stuff play out when youre walking through the rain? Lets talk about the big three.
FINANCES
Lets talk about finances, authority and submission over finances. Financial turmoil is one of the number one causes of divorce. Usually when two people hook up and they walk down the wedding runner, one is more of a free spender and the other one is more like conservative. And all that causes us to start fighting.
I want to spend money and forget the umbrella. You save too much and you try to control me with finances and
Lets get ready to rumble! Call in the lawyers to pick up the pieces. Thats what happens, isnt it? Yeah it is.
One of the biggest mistakes Lisa and I ever made happened before we got married. We did not receive premarital counseling. Please, please, get some premarital counseling. I didnt read any books on marriage. I didnt listen to any tapes on marriage. I didnt see a Christian counselor. Thats why we talk about marriage so much here.
And weve written a book called The Creative Marriage. Its in its fourth printing. Itll be coming out again soon. Read a book like that or one of the marriage books you can find in our bookstores. Or go to a great Christian counselor. We have a list for you available on our websites.
Before you get married, please, I beg you, talk about finances. Because heres what happened to Lisa and I. We walked down the wedding runner, were married for a couple of months, and financially we said, Man, whats wrong with us? Somethings happening.
Ed Young Jr shared that, we had arguments over finances and I was in seminary and she was working full time and I was trying to work full time, too. It was an authority issue. We both had to get beneath Gods authority for financial freedom.
God says the first thing were to do is were to bring the tithe into the local house of worship. 10 percent. Im not talking about giving. Were not giving. Were bringing it. You will not be under the authority of God until you bring 10 percent of your income to your local church. Its not going to happen for you. So we started doing that 24 years ago. 10 percent. Okay God, here it is.
