subject: How To Get My Ex-girlfriend Back? Don't Miss This First Killer Step! [print this page] Okay, a breakup is among the most emotionally painful things that can ever happen to you. That bottomless pit you feel in your stomach, it's real and it hurts! It happens to the best of all of us at some period in our lives, but the first move you make is among the most important steps of how your breakup with your girlfriend will play out.
So, what is that first thing you should do to get your ex-girlfriend back...nothing! What do I mean by that? The first thing you need to do is just chill and gain some perspective. Regroup, man, regroup! Sometimes when we get dumped we do things that are outside of our character. We do things we wouldn't typically do. Listen, our emotions can make us do some crazy things. Hacking emails, flooding her with texts, unsolicited drive-byes, and never-ending calls are not ways to get her back. That's why you need to just chill, get control of your emotions and then proceed to the next step.
I'm sure you are wondering if she is thinking about you the way you are thinking about her. The answer is, yes! If you had any depth to your relationship, she is thinking about you. You can't spend months or years with someone and just turn it off. You shared inside jokes, experiences, emotions, trust and love and those are things that don't go away at the drop of a hat.
Many times our concerns turn from concentrating on getting her back to "what if's". What if she started seeing someone else, what if she doesn't love me anymore, what if she has moved on. Those feeling make us do irrational things. Don't play into the, "what if's" game. None of these things make a difference when the scale weighs in on getting back together. It's all about creating the proper mindset to heal all wounds. You can't create that mindset if you don't have proper perspective. See where this is headed? You have to think before you act.
If you follow this simple rule, take a step back and breath the tide will turn considerably in your favor. If you've already broken some of the cardinal rules, don't worry it's not too late. It's never too late to take a step back and gain composure. Many times, this is just the shot of adrenaline your relationship needs to break that vicious cycle and start moving forward again.
So to sum up, do nothing! Do nothing and start yourself on the fast track to get your ex-girlfriend back fast.
