subject: Help Saving A Relationship With These Marriage Tips [print this page] In today's throw away culture working on saving a relationship can make you wonder if this marriage be saved?
There was a time when people married for life. Although there were unfortunate cases where someone experienced a long term abusive relationship, the lifetime commitment had many benefits as well(Although marriage was taken very seriously years ago we are not suggesting that anyone should remain in an abusive marriage for the purpose of saving a relationship). Marriage was the backbone of society by creating
stable and intact families.
With so many states having no fault divorce it has become much easier to divorce a spouse. In many states anyone can file for a divorce without seeking any type of counseling. How do you go about saving a relarionship in this kind of environment?
First, you need to realize that a marriage can be saved, even if only one partner wants it. One important issue to be aware of is that you may have to put in most of the effort if your partner shows little or no interest in saving a relationship.
When you first get married you both may bring different levels of commitment or relationship skills into the marriage.So, when people get married, they can usually recognize the areas in their marriage where they have the stronger interest or better skills and carry out family needs accordingly. That isn't because it is their job. It's because they may have the higher interest or skill to take care of a certain issue than their spouse. This is the same when it comes to saving a marriage where one spouse may have to do most or the work in saving the relationship.
If you are the one who wants to save the marriage, you are going to have to most of the work. If you are interested in how to save a failing marriage please read the marriage
tips belows:
1.) Recognize and acknowledge the marital issues your spouse told you about why they want a divorce.Changing the problems are extremely difficult if you don't recognize the problems your spouse is concerned with
2.) Remember that you spouse has put a lot into the relationship too. Use that investment to rebuild the marriage. Your spouse will probably have second thoughts about leaving from time to time. Give him or her reasons to stay.
3.)Avoid a negative reaction and control your response to your spouse wanting a breakup or divorce. The natural reaction is to become emotional and press the spouse wanting to leave the marriage to talk about the problems and issues.However in most cases your spouse needs emotional space rather than an emotional confrontation of pressure.. Be sensitive
to that situation and give them space
4.) Don't have such high expections. Saving a marriage requires that you don't look for perfection in everything. If your spouse has weaknesses, now is not the occasion to point them out. If there are things bothering you, just deal with it.
5.)Focus on having a good time. Although saving a relationship is important, pressing to hard can have negative results. Try to do fun things together that you both will enjoy. When you reconnect in the small ways, the big things will take care of themselves.
Lastly, recognize that most of us exist in a society where saving a relationship is not considered important. However deep within you understand how important your marriage is to you and your family
