subject: When Dealing With Your Divorce... [print this page] I recently got divorced from my husband of 18 years. It was a relatively easy divorce thanks in part to the fact that we did not have any children together, and in part to my attorney, Eric Roy, who assisted me every step of the way. It went as smoothly as a divorce can go, granted it was not fun for anyone. One difficulty that I had to deal with is lack of support from my friends, who almost blamed me for going ahead with it. From the outside they cant understand what I was going through. My ex-husband is a good man, and thats what they see, but they fail to understand the issues we had among ourselves. Despite these issues he wanted to stay together. This made me feel bad in a way, but then I knew in my heart that I have to go ahead and finalize this issue despite the difficulties.
I had talked to Mr. Roy from the very beginning, even before I filed anything. He was very understanding of my situation, and I felt comfortable with him by my side. He really did make things a lot easier, not only by taking care of the legal matters, but also providing me with moral support. We decided to first go through mediation, since this usually makes things easier. In a mediation there would have been agreements made between me and my husband before the official filing. This would have made things even smoother, but my ex-husband was so upset he did not want to deal with any of it. We went on through what is called a one-signature divorce in which I was the plaintiff, and he by default the defendant. When he received the Nevada Divorce Complaint he ignored it, but within a short time it became valid by law and it was submitted to the court. The document was then filed and the divorce became official.
I had talked to my ex-husband a few times within this process. There was a little tension, but as I mentioned the fact that there were no kids involved was a major advantage. In a divorce, custody issues are major obstacles in addition to everything else. Another major issue that was avoided is alimony. Me and him make about the same amount of money anyway, and the issue was not even a factor. The only property we had bought together was our home; eventually we sold it and split the profits. This was a bit of a problem because we could not sell it as quickly as we had hoped. Since my priority was to get the divorce done smoothly I chose to live with a good friend (as roommates) and let him live in the house for a while. I did not want to be there anyway, and fortunately this arrangement worked out pretty well.
Divorce is definitely not fun. Even in the best scenario it is a costly headache. I am thankful that things still worked out in the end, thanks in part to my attorney, as well as a little bit of good fortune under less than ideal circumstances.
