subject: The Top 5 Things that Make You Look Needy [print this page] Hey Hey
Neediness is a major issue when it comes to dating, Especially for us men. How needy you appear to be has a direct effect on your perceivedsocial value, and thus your chances of landing yourself some highquality women. As a whole, women have a variety of turn-ons and turn-offs that can vary significantly from woman to woman, but no women isturned on by a needy man. You simply will never heard a woman say "Ilove guys that are clingy and won't stop texting/calling my phone!"
It just doesn't happen. Period.
I think by now you are starting to get the picture; acting needy isreally, REALLY bad. It is a surefire way to ruin your chances withany new woman that you've just met, and to demolish any newrelationships that you are fortunate enough to start. You simply cannot maintainthe interest and attraction of a woman if she views youas being a needy man, because she will always think of you as being"below" her from a social standpoint.
Women don't seriously date men with less social value than themselves,they may toy around with you and lead you on, but that is as far as itis ever going to go.
With all of this in mind, I've put together a quick check-list for you of the top 5 things that men commonly do (most of the time withouteven knowing it) that gives off the needy vibe to woman and lowerstheir social standing. Use this list to either change your currentbehavior, or to avoid falling into these mistakes in the future if youhaven't already.
Here they are:
Too much contact: This is the biggest of the bunch. Contacting a womanover and overagain is the quickest way to appear needy. This includescalling her, texting her, showing up at her work, and all other forms of communication. If you initiate contact with her multiple times perday, you are being needy. The best way to handle this one is to limit yourself to contacting her no more than once per day, and thatincludes all forms of contact. A great general rule to follow is tostrictly use the telephone (text and talk) to set up dates andmeetings, nothing more. If you've been on the phone with her justtalking about random stuff for over 30 minutes, you are giving her abad impression of you.
Jealousy over other men: Want to know how to make yourself appear to be really insecure and unworthy of the attention of any hot woman? Getjealous when it comes to other men, that will definitely do that trick.Instead, you should act like you don't care whether she talks to othermen (even if you do care) because you know that you are better thanthose dudes and you aren't feeling challenged by them at all. Now, ifshe is your long term girlfriend and is actively hanging out withother guys, then you have a good reason to be a little suspicious, butanything short of that you should completely blow off like a real man.
Always available: Needy men make themselves available to the womenthat they are interested in 24 hours per day, 7 days per week. If shecalls, a needy man will ALWAYS answer the phone every single time. Ifshe shows up and asks him to just drop whatever he is doing to helpher out with something else, he will listen to her. Basically, if you give a woman the impression that you are at her call regardless of thetime of day or how busy you may be, her perception of you will dropfaster than you can blink. To avoid this, only answer her phone callsor respond to her text messages half of the time, and if she asks youto do something with her when you are already busy, tell her that youare busy and will meet up with her later. That is how a real man acts,the type of man that she'll go to bed with in the blink of an eye.Be that man.
Moving too quickly: When a needy man first meets a woman that he fallsfor immediately, his first instinct is to go full force for a deeprelationship with her right away. He will usually be the first to stepit up and ask her to "go steady", and will also be the first to say the dreaded 3 words "I love you". For a lot of men, these things just"feel right" at the time and may appear to be the right thing to do,but believe me they are huge mistakes that can ruin what you aretrying to accomplish. Your attitude towards a woman that you reallylike should be identical to that of other woman that you are mildlyinterested in. Pump those brakes and let things within therelationship evolve naturally, don't force it.
Never saying no: Whether she is asking for a drink, for you to watchher purse, help her move a couch, give her a ride, loan her some money,change a tire on her car, or any other favor that a woman will ask ofa man that she believes to be needy enough to give in, you need tolearn how to say NO. There is nothing wrong with saying no, and itisn't going to destroy any chances you have of getting with the woman.If you don't feel like doing something that she wants, tell her so,don't just give in because that you are afraid that she may never talkto you again if you say no to her every once in a while. If she is thetype of woman that would drop you over something like that, she isn'tworth your time anyway because all that she is doing is using you.
There you have it. Those are the biggest mistakes that men make whichultimately lead them to being viewed as needy, and needy is notattractive. If you want to be highly successful with women, you willneed to learn how to avoid these blunders at all costs.
The good news is, these are all simple aspects of your dating lifethat you can easily take control of with just a pinch of willpower.After you eliminate these bad habits from your natural behavior, youwill see a dramatic change in the way that females view you, and willhave a much easier time getting them attracted to you and keeping itthat way.
