subject: The Best Nlp Training Views [print this page] Last week I visited a couple of horse riding academies and got to witness two pretty distinctive approaches to training a horse. At the first school I located a very knowledgeable trainer working with a young horse ... a mare. This particular female horse hasn't been ridden much; maybe three or four times under saddle. She is being asked to move to the left when the coach applies pressure against her right side with his leg. The horse really should move away from the pressure and yet this young mare is having a difficult time understanding the command. This trainer allows the horse to question, to hesitate and even to move in the wrong direction. Why? Because this coach realizes that this is all new to this animal. As soon as the horse executes take an intermediate the correct direction, the coach praises his mount and then repeats the task until the horse "gets it".
On the annihilation of the session, the mare is happy, the coach is satisfied and neither of them are angry or hurt.
A terrific model from an NLP Training perspective
Now let's move on down the street to where we locate another coach in the saddle on another horse about the equivalent age, equivalent sex and with about as much training as the first horse. This second coach is trying to teach the equivalent lesson yet this session will end far differently than on the ranch we just visited. Right here, we watch the coach jump into the saddle and yanked the horse's head around. He demands ... rather than asks the horse to move to the left. This coach gets sharp spurs on his boots and he jabs the horse heavily in the right side to obtain the pet to move to the left. This poor mare has no idea what this rider is wanting her to execute, so she freezes and goes nowhere. The trainer yanks at the reins and the horse raises her head to ease the pressure on her mouth. This in turn infuriates the trainer and he loses his temper. The trainer takes the bit of the reins and whips the mare for in no way reacting to his demand. Now the horse is frustrated so she rears up and falls over backwards on the demanding coach. He's hurt and she's scared.
A poor model from an NLP Training perspective
These two illustrations take place in just about every household across the country where little ones are entailed. Kids are a lot like horses that haven't been trained. Look with it this way ... the older and bigger the child or the horse is, the tougher it is to train them ... so start early. Both little ones and horses have to start someplace and the leading results are acquired when the "trainer" gets the idea what they 're doing. Sadly, kids do not get with training manuals (Yet, but I'm working on it!) so it's up to the parents to seek good coaching so they in turn can train their kids.
Our children are going to grow up and be the type of customers that we, as the coaches, teach them to be. Kids that are abused and yelled for and punished when they don't prize or understand the "rules of the road" regularly turn into renegades and gang members. They WILL rear up on you when you lose your temper with them. Why? since YOU are not a good ample trainer. The good coach understands that mistakes will certainly be made and there are going to be confusion throughout the training process. No! our kids are in no way horses, although some may act like pets at times and yet that doesn't excuse us from losing our tempers when it gets to directing them.
Little ones require consistency and love ... in no way just directions. If you replace the word "Coach" for manager and "Kids" for employees you can look on the above from a company example. Somewhat easily.
Keep in mind this ... "Frustration starts where understanding ends" so get some help ... some direction from those who have gone before.
