subject: Become Incredibly Selfish [print this page] Ive been reviewing my copy of Thomas Leonards The 28 Laws of Attraction (formerly, The Portable Coach), and relishing the simplicity of creating a vibrantly attractive life.
That doesnt mean it wont take some work on your part to consider these timeless invitations. Habits do require some handling. However, unhooking from the assumptions that rule your world will unleash the freedom and creative expression to design the life you want to live.
Principle #1: Become Incredibly Selfish
If you were raised to be a good girl or a good boy this sounds downright blasphemous. Most folks were taught to think of others first, especially if youre a woman. You are trained to serve, help, take care of OTHERS. Well, lets turn that one on its side!
Fortune really does favor the brave, and the brave are
guided by their own lights. Thomas Leonard
Ive taken the liberty to distill Thomas ten tips into five, but the essence of his suggestions remains:
1. Reorient around being Selfish. Being selfish has gotten a bad rap. Thats because our needs as a people have changed. At one time survival depended on putting the clans needs first. We have evolved and so have our needs. Today, it is crucial to take care of yourself first. Remember the flight attendants advice: in case of emergency put your own mask on first, then you can help others. Your evolution depends on the conscious and focused expression of your energy. Your selfishness contributes the evolution of others.
2. Know what you want and say it! Make it a practice to say No! and mean it! All those social niceties that have you tolerate behavior and environments that dont suit you are an energy drain, and in the end, dishonest. Be clear about how you feel and what you want and clearly communicate it. In todays high paced world, your energy is at a premium. Dont waste it by trying to cover up authentic needs.
3. Selfishness creates reserves. When you have reserves you are naturally and authentically abundant. This goes way beyond being nice. This kind of abundance, with no hidden agenda, transforms every encounter. This doesnt take away from you, when giving is sourced from your reserves it actually makes room for more flow. This kind of selfishness unleashes infinite abundance for you and others.
4. Dont keep company with those who cant be selfish. You dont want to hang around folks that dont get selfishness. Moralizing and justifying are energy draining experiences that an evolutionary change agent cant afford. Upgrade your environment instantly by hanging out with other folks who are willing to take on this level of selfishness for themselves, and honor it in others.
5. Relinquish scarcity. I know it seems like others might miss out on some things if you decide to be selfish. I invite you to explore the abundance of the Universe. There is always more air to breathe more than enough for everyone else even as you deeply inhale. As is so often cited in special reports, even hunger (the lack of food) is an illusion. Its just a problem of delivery. Consider that the same holds true for everyone. Theres plenty for everyone, its just a delivery problem. You can shift that for others by shifting it for yourself.
For the next week, practice being selfish in this new way. Make a list of ONE selfish thing that you can do each day, allow yourself to go to the edge of being selfish in ways that youve never imagined. Try it on, its only seven days! Youll be glad you did and so will everyone else.
