subject: Will Smith And Jada Pinkett-smith Over? [print this page] The separation of Hollywood's power couple Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith has been the latest media buzz. Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith are rumored to have ended their 13-year marriage in August of this year. Some speculate that Jada Pinkett-Smith and Will Smith are making it look like they are still together for the sake of their children's mental health. Although the relationship status of Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith is uncertain, there is no uncertainty around the effects of divorce on children.
The topics of divorce and/or separation and children have been the subject of several books and articles, and the effects of divorce on children continue to be reported as being a clear detriment to children's mental health.
Consider the following statistics regarding children of divorce, and the serious negative effects of divorce on children and on children's mental health:
-Children of divorce face a higher risk of emotional distress and physical harm than other children.
-Children of divorce, even after their parents are remarried or re-partnered, are more likely than children whose parents remain together to:
As people go through separation and children continue to suffer, how do the children of divorce learn how to cope with divorce? Are the effects of divorce on children and on children's mental health irreparable? Much of this has to do with how the adults behave before, during, and after separation. Divorce for children means the end of their world, and the parents have to be ready to guide them appropriately.
When adults are about to embark on a separation and children are involved, adults must acquire new ability about how to cope with divorce. The recent discovery that the brain is malleable makes it possible for people to learn such new abilities. Important new abilities to help how to cope with divorce include forgiveness, strength, courage, parenting, clear communication skills and loving. In addition, to minimize the impacts of divorce for children, parents are encouraged to follow the following tips:
1.Clear your resentments from the past and leave them there. When we learn to forgive and let go of our resentments towards what happened in the past, we don't carry anger and negative energy during the phases of separation and post separation. Being resentful and negative towards your ex or your circumstances greatly affects your children who are like sponges and who can always know how you are feeling.
2.Choose a method of separating such as collaborative family law or mediation. These systems are founded on respect and collaboration. Divorce for children is hard enough without their parents fighting it out in Court!
3.Take responsibility for the impact you have on people. Really invest the time to learn who you are and how to be appropriate with your children. Regardless of how your ex is behaving, who you are with your children has a profound impact on how they will do post-separation.
So then, will Will Smith terminate his second marriage? Will Jada Pinkett-Smith become one of Hollywood's most eligible bachelorettes? Or will Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith really consider the implications of divorce for children and try to rejuvenate their marriage? Only time will tell whether Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith are able to learn new behaviors and work together to avoid the negative effects of combining separation and children.
