subject: Spiritual Expansion - How To Truly Be Heard [print this page] Do you wish others would actually "hear" you? Do you truly wish to be "heard" to have others listen to what you are saying, the emotions you are expressing?
If you wish to be heard, first you must listen. To listen means to actively listen with your entire Be-ing. Listen attentively, focusing on what the other person is saying. Listening means not thinking about what you will or will not say next. To listen is giving another person your undivided attention, making someone else feel special.
Listening is being in the moment, hearing all that is being said to you. Listening is acknowledging what the other person is saying regardless of whether or not you agree. It is not about you, it is about listening to another express heartfelt joy, sorrow or excitement. It is about accepting another's decisions for the path before them. Listening is about the other person.
If you are being asked for guidance or suggestions, take a moment before answering. Be aware of where your response comes from. Does it come from your Ego chatter mind of what you think the other person should or should not do based on your experiences, the filters through which you live your life? Or are your responses supportive, without judgment, without condition, without adding your "two cents".
Everyone wants, desires, needs to be heard to be accepted, to be acknowledged for whom they are and the choices they make. Blowing someone off based on choices you have made, or not made thus far does you far more injustice than the person or persons whom you are blowing off.
Blowing someone off may seem to be a kind way to not involve you with what appears to be something little or insignificant. Ask yourself the next time you are about to blow someone off how you feel when your feelings, your questions are ignored. Do you feel like you matter? Or do you perhaps feel as if what you are expressing is merely an annoyance. Does it make you feel less than you truly are?
This is not to suggest you respond to every comment or intrusion. It is being suggested you actually listen to not only someone else but also to you. If you are not willing to truly listen to your own heart, your emotions, the energy you sense around you, how then can you expect someone else to listen.
True, the person you are listening to may or may not "listen" to you at that moment or any other. Giving the gift of listening, of being "heard" is a gift you give yourself. For in listening, truly listening, you are "heard". Your voice carries a sweet melody, an energy all its own. In listening, in hearing you are in turn "heard" in the fullness of the light and love within you now this moment.
