subject: Deal with your needs - they may be hurting you more than supporting you [print this page] You can consider desire as a two sided coinYou can consider desire as a two sided coin. We may often dwell as to how it is this desire which motivates us to achieve our goals and it is this desire which compelled us to make a first move on spouse we so profoundly love.
Desire is also responsible for lots of positive feedback we receive and is in fact a good and meaningful mental concept. Without any desires in us, we wouldn't in fact be up to much. You might also want to consider as to what are the useful things which your desire has been able to bring to you.
We would not have made goals in the first place if we would not have desired the outcome from these goals. Having a want for something is similar to having a desire for it. You can consider desire to be the main motivating factor for anything we do apart from requisite actions we take to survive.
Buddhist believes that desires are a form of sufferings. They consider it as an un-ending cycle of desires which eventually make us suffer and thus evade a point in life. They may be correct to think so.
Apart from performing all the necessary duties and functions to survive, we are not required to do anything more. As long as we are not causing hurt to anybody, what we are doing is entirely unto us.
When there is desire in us, we constantly would want to own more and more of things. We actually never want to see any end point to our desires. Therefore we are never content with what we have achieved or what we have. It is really important to control and eventually limit our desires so that we can spend our time peacefully with whatever we have achieved in our life, and should avoid getting into the cycle where our conscious compels us to desire more and more.
Deal with your needs - they may be hurting you more than supporting you
