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Your wife doesn't want to talk about the problems you two are facing in your marriage. It's challenging given the fact that you recognize that you have issues that you need to address. That's impossible to do though when she refuses to open up enough to talk with you. If you're like many men you simply give up and hope that at some point she'll change her mind and want to talk. That's a disaster as it typically results in the couple in question drifting farther apart until their problems swallow them and the relationship fails. You must deal with this now if you want your marriage to be successful and fulfilling for both of you.

Before you can get your wife to open up and reveal what she's feeling to you, you need to discover why your wife doesn't want to talk. Women don't shut down unless there is a good reason for it. Something has caused her to pull back into herself so much that she won't share herself with you anymore. Did you two have a major argument? Is there an ongoing conflict within your marriage that is causing tension? Or perhaps she's dealing with an issue at work that is causing her a lot of stress. You really do need to take some time to think about what is causing her to withdraw into herself. Once you identify what you think it is, you can then work on fixing the problem.

For instance, if you two have been arguing more often than not lately, that has to change. If it's an issue that has been tearing you two apart, you need to be the one to find a compromise and ultimately a resolution. It's hard to give in when you feel very strongly about your side of an issue, but when your marriage is at stake, that compromise seems much easier.

Another problem that may be plaguing your marriage without you fully realizing it is that your wife feels uncomfortable being so open with her feelings because of how your conversations typically go with one another. Misunderstandings run rampant in some relationships and the couple can find themselves arguing when all they wanted to do was talk about their feelings. If this happens often in your own marriage, make a vow to your wife that you'll try your best to be more understanding of her feelings and then follow through on that. Allow her to speak without commenting until she's done sharing. Encourage her to open up to you by being more engaged in her life. Show her, through your actions and your words, that your marriage is the most important thing in the world. If you can do this, she'll feel closer to you and much more willing to talk.

Your Wife Doesn't Want to Talk Ways to Pull Her Closer to You Again

By: Gillian Reynolds




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