subject: 5 More Things To Avoid If You Do Not Want To Ruin Your Marriage [print this page] Introduction Introduction
In a previous article, I have discussed the first five of ten things to avoid if you do not want to ruin your marriage. In this article we shall continue down that path and look at the remaining five things to avoid if you do not want to ruin your marriage.
Second Of Two Articles
This is the second in a two-part series about the ten things you should avoid doing if you do not want to ruin your marriage.
Rule 6: Do Not Lie On The Couch / Watch TV While She Works
We get back to the slave issue again. In the previous article I already pointed out that you should not let your wife get the impression that she is only a slave to you. Lying on the couch and leaving your wife to do all the work is nothing other than letting her be your slave. This type of behavior screams at your wife that you have no respect for her. If you indulge in this behavior you should NOT be surprised if she leaves you for someone who treats her with respect.
Rule 7: Help Her With The Children
We are decades past the time when it was the "little woman's job" to raise the kids, while her husband went out with his buddies. Not helping her with the kids that YOU helped her produce, by the way is not only part of your responsibility, but will also strengthen your relationship both with your wife and your children. An actively involved father is one way of ensuring well-balanced kids.
Rule 8: Do Not Compare Her To Other Women
How many guys can be married to the most beautiful woman on earth? Only one, because there is only one most beautiful woman. The others are second most beautiful, third most beautiful, etc. So there are ample opportunities to see women with lovelier hair, more beautiful eyes, trimmer figures, better legs, a tighter butt, slimmer tummy, etc. than your wife. But do you really have to pint this out? How would you like it if she begins to compare you to Kevin Costner, Brad Pitt and Leonardo di Caprio? Or to the better looking guy next door? Keep away from this destructive behavior and rather look for things to compliment her on. That will build you relationship rather than breaking it.
Rule 9: Do Not Criticize Everything She Does
Remember that criticism is one of the most destructive things we can do, so beware of this. If you want to criticize, rather think of another way of approaching the issue. Instead of saying, "Not fish again? You know I hate fish!" you could say, "Honey, even though I don't like fish, I know that the Omega oils are good for me and that you prepare it because you care for my health." That takes the criticism and therefore the sting - out of what you say.
Rule 10: Do Not Leave Her Sexually Unsatisfied
A proper orgasm (or two or three or four orgasms) is something that gives your wife massive joy. It is your task, no your privilege, to assist her to reach massively satisfying, mind blowing orgasms. You should not have a "get" attitude towards sex (getting what you want), but rather a "give" attitude (giving her what she wants). If you just get on her, and roll over once you are done, then there is no joy in it for your wife. Remember that to your wife sex is almost as much an emotional act as it is a physical one. Learn all you can about becoming the type of lover for whom your wife will be glad to strip her clothes because you satisfy both her emotional and physical sexual needs.
Summary
As with the previous five "rules," if you do the five things that this article warns about, you will be showing your lack of love and respect for your wife. By avoiding them, you will be communicating to your wife that she is in fact the most important person in your life.
5 More Things To Avoid If You Do Not Want To Ruin Your Marriage
