subject: Rebuilding A Marriage After Infidelity - The Most Importnat Thing [print this page] The task of rebuilding a marriage after infidelity is one that is often beyond the capabilities of a couple. The spectre of the affair haunts a marriage from then on and both the cheater and the victim end up miserable and often the relationship cannot be saved.
Some couples will soon understand where the problem lies and work towards a solution. Others will find it much more difficult and will find it hard to reach a state of forgiveness without some help from a third party
As people are doing their best to rebuild their marriage, there is often one element that people wind up ignoring. When people ignore this key element, they often create their own downfall as the communication they sorely require cannot take place
This inhibiting factor is the wish to move forward in your marriage by recreating the past. It may seem like the smart solution to your problem - save the marriage by bringing back to life the emotions that made it work before the infidelity. But in truth this is not the right move. That marriage finished when the trust was shattered and can never be reclaimed
The only way to successfully survive an affair and keep your relationshipis to start again.Build a brand new life for yourselves by breaking from the past and working on a new marriage.
It is vitally important that you focus on letting go of the past and how you perceived your marriage to be. From this base you can now continue to explore yourself and your partner via communication to find a way forward and save your marriage from divorce.
