subject: Dealing With Loneliness For Divorced Men [print this page] Dealing with loneliness after a divorce can be, at the time, a pain that is indescribable. Especially right after the divorce-- it leaves even the strongest of men feeling desolate and alone. As if a battered self-image was punishment enough, the financial cost of the divorce can leave you reeling which is not the best mental state to even think about dating again. That's not even to say about the custody battle that may follow to compound an already delicate situation.
Well, there's a couple of things here that are vital that you understand in order to get yourself on your feet again and actively taking the path towards your own crafted new happy life, filled with beautiful and exciting women! Ok. Looking at a man that's been divorced newly or not, let's eliminate lonelieness by grabbing it by the horns and ending it for good, once and for all.
Work On Your Self-Esteem
First and foremost, when we look at divorced men and loneliness, you will find that your self-esteem will be on the low side. It's important that you understand that you must bring your self-image, self-esteem, and self-worth to a higher level. Low self -esteem will create loneliness and not only is that bad for your mental health, but it will kill your game with women.
First of all, I am here to say that you are ok and what feelings you have, both good or ill are ok to have.
I don't care who has told you that you "had a good thing with your "ex." What matters is what you feel and what you want out of your new life.
I disliked my divorce like no other. And, to make matters worse, the people who I thought would have supported me made me feel like it was my fault. I am telling you it's no body's. Look, sometimes two people just grow apart. It's not good or bad--it just is. Most of the time, the two never should have gotten married in the first place. It's ok. Stop that inner voice and tell it it's alright. Do not punish yourself--and let go of the guilt.
Just remember this: whatever doesn't kill you will only make you stronger!
I like to call it "being a man." I know it's painful, but you are going to have to be a man and own up to your responsibilities to yourself. No more feeling sorry for yourself! I know this sounds crazy, but every facet of your pain is only, over time, going to make you stronger and stronger. Know, that in time that pain is going to recede.
Courage is the simple antidote to all of this and all the pain, the loneliness that you are going through right now, you can just face it with courage. It's a man's domain to be courageous, after all.
Courage: Have It Fuel You Decisions To Give You Everything You Deserve!
So, courage is the solution! Courage is having to do the right thing, even though you are not certain of the outcome; it takes a little faith--faith in yourself.
You have to make a decision that you deserve to be happy and that you are ok. Moreover, you need to make a decision to actively get out there and meet women.
There's a great saying my best friend told me when I was going through my divorce that helped: A new nail drives out an old one.
If you had a hot, dynamic, new women in your life that was totally into you, you wouldn't feel so alone. That's what you should be focused on!
Onwards.
Making a decision requires courage. You are going to have to do it yourself. No one else will do it for you. No one . . .just you. (Know that after you make that decision, that people out of nowhere will come to help you achieve what you've decided to do, like me!)
Understanding those two elements can help you better deal with loneliness after divorce. You now have a plan--meet women!
I am now going to tell you about the last important issue . . .
The Fork In The Road
Look, there's another saying you have to understand and use, and that is this: If you are at a fork in the road, take it!
This is a significant aspect to be sure and is so crucial. What this means is that you actively have to get yourself out there to end loneliness in your post divorced life. What this means is that you have to go out there and actually put yourself into the social milieu and meet women. Don't get confused or depressed and stay home and mope: that's staying at the "fork."
When your friends tell you that they are having a party or they are going out for dinner with friends, go! That's what I am talking about. Take the fork in the road and get the heck out there.
Or, you can go out to the coffee house and start a "chat" with a woman you see and are attracted to. Perhaps a single friend of yours and yourself can go to a speed dating event. Or, you can hang out with your friends that are women and go out with them. Here's an example of "taking that fork in the road" :if you don't have women who are friends, make them!
By using these three important tips and getting out into the social domain, you will hone and build up your social skill and meet women. Yes, you will fall on your face from time to time. It's ok--grow from it! Eventually, you will get that exciting life filled with exciting women and good friends.
