subject: Saving A Marriage After Infidelity - 2 Tips On How Do I Keep It From Happening Again? [print this page] . Here are 2 tips to help you do this...
Tip 1. Understand Why The Affair Happened
When you understand what led to the affair, you can work towards avoiding those behaviors. Every relationship is different because everyone is unique. Still, there are some common patterns that lead to infidelity in marriage:
Neglecting each other or complacency
Being unaware of each other's real needs
Not setting boundaries for your interactions with the opposite gender
Not knowing how to build a trust-filled marriage
Fact is: Marriage doesn't come with a manual. So while it's natural to imagine that "Love will conquer all", unfortunately, without a roadmap and a guide, it's too easy to get lost when you're struggling to handle the daily responsibilities of life.
My best advice is to learn more. Get educated. Listen to what marriage experts say and use their suggestions to build a better marriage for yourself.
Tip 2. Don't Invite Trouble Into Your Relationship - Avoid Risky Behavior
What is risky behavior? In my opinion, any one-on-one interaction with the opposite gender can be classified as 'risky behavior'. As a wife, I view any woman my husband often comes into contact with as a potential risk. Especially when there's frequent opportunity for them to spend time alone. Men and women are biologically designed to mate. Why take the risk?
Consider how emotional bonds are formed? They're formed when two people share intimate details with each other. The more time you spend with someone, the more likely you are to share more about yourself. The hardest type of affair to end is an emotional one. So don't be fooled into thinking it's perfectly safe for your husband to be buddies with another woman. You'll only be testing his ability to resist temptation. It's not worth it.
Saving A Marriage After Infidelity - 2 Tips On How Do I Keep It From Happening Again?