subject: Help! My Boyfriend Dumped Me - What Can I Do To Get Him Back? [print this page] Going through a breakup is one of the worst experiences imaginable - especially if you were the one who was dumped. You can go from one day thinking everything is fine to the next day everything being up in the air and you're regretting so many of your decisions. And it's even more difficult when you realize how much you want that person back in your life.
The good news is that getting your ex back is not as hopeless as it sounds. In fact, it's very much possible 90% of the time. The first thing you have to do is figure out exactly what caused the breakup to happen. Take some time to yourself to reflect on things that happened in your relationship. Was it something that happened suddenly or had your boyfriend been pulling away for a while and this was the final result? Writing in a journal can help you figure out why this happened.
As you're writing in your journal trying to figure out what happened, try to list specifics. The clearer you get on the situation, the easier you'll be able to choose a course of actions to help you get your ex back. If you fail to do this and you resort to trickery, you won't have your ex back for the long term. But if you know what you need to work on, you'll start to have the tools you need to fix the relationship.
The Number One Thing To Avoid If You Want Your Boyfriend Back
Do not at any time come off as needy when keeping in contact with your ex. While you may be feeling it and the feeling can sometimes be strong, you cannot let your ex see that in you at all. If you want to come off as more desirable, be confident and learn how to be happy just as you are right now. Your ex needs to see that you're doing just fine without him in your life. This creates a feeling inside of him to question whether or not he made the right decision to break up with you.
Don't confuse being happy and confident with trying to make your ex jealous. This makes you come off as petty and childish - the last thing you want to show to your ex boyfriend. You should focus on showing your ex how great of a person you are. In many ways, they just need to be reminded of what you were like when you met.
