subject: Learning How To Save A Marriage - Do You Know The Root Issues? [print this page] In this article, I'd like to discuss how you might be able to save your marriage. Today millions of marriages are in jeopardy. Consequently divorce happens, broken homes with children occur who then end up living with a part time mother and father. Is there a way to prevent this? Perhaps. Maybe you can get something out of this article on how to save your marriage, and your sanity.
If you're going through a divorce, you're likely experiencing loneliness, a monetary hardship, and or a plethora of different issues that is affecting your life. You first need to believe your marriage is worth saving, and since you took vows to stick with each other perhaps it's worth giving it your best effort. Health decline is a common result of going through a troubled marriage because of the stress. This is unfortunate but it can be avoided.
Obviously you're giving the serious thought of saving your marriage since you're reading this article right now, and is a great first step for you. Gathering information to save your marriage is always a good thing if you are serious about staying together and avoiding a divorce especially when there are kids involved who will be directly affected if you get a divorce. But as long as you are willing to try, there's always hope.
To begin, it's essential to work out the differences with your spouse that have either been avoided or not discussed at all.
A few of these may be things like:
Money Problems
Lack of good conversations
Sexual disfunction
No Emotional Understanding
Being Unfaithful
Not spending enough time together as a couple
Constant Avoidance of quality time
Controlling behaviors
Emotional separation
Differing opinions on how to raise your kids
This might be just the tip of the iceberg for many couples, but understanding your problems is critical to your success. Money for example, is one of the most common problems partners face. And with the economy as it is today it's putting more and more stress on families all over America.
If you want to save your marriage, you need to get to the root cause of the issue so you can address it head on. Sometimes marriage counseling is the answer, and sometimes it's not. Both parties have to be willing participants for that to have success.
Perhaps there was an affair, and you have feelings of bitterness and betrayal. These feelings are normal, however they don't help to put your marriage together again.
As an alternative, it's imperative to find out why the affair happened. Most people who get cheated on like to pretend none of it was their fault. This is not always the case, and yet another reason to get deeper understandings to the dynamics in your relationship.
Whatever happens between two people in a marriage involves both parties not just one. This understanding not only gives you a greater perspective of your spouse, and if you should stay together, but a better understanding of how to avoid it from happening again in the future.
If your relationship is lacking sexual intimacy, it can and will have negative impacts that will seriously threaten your marriage's survival. Why is your spouse withdrawn from you physically? Are you both emotionally detached?
Raising kids, dealing with money issues, health problems, and others are common when marriages get in trouble. Often times people are just too embarrassed to deal with these issues. Saving your relationship could be as simple as having a meaningful discussion and making an extra effort to connect physically, and emotionally.
What about the way you treat each other? It's easy to take people for granted after a period of time, but a simple act of kindness and respect is essential in a partnership. Is your spouse a control freak? This is an unhealthy situation to be in, and often is the root cause for domestic violence.
Perhaps they are insecure, and a common reason for their controlling behavior. This isn't just a man's problem either. She or he in relationships are afraid of rejection. Sounds crazy but true, and can be avoided with straightforward communication with each others' feelings.
Taking action to fix your marriage is the first step. When you have a solid understanding to root causes of the issues you're on your way to saving your marriage.
