subject: 3 Reasons Why You Should Break Up [print this page] You have been dating for a while now and you are starting to question the relationship. The relationship is not as strong as it used to be and you are starting to wonder if you should just break up and move on with your life. Here are 3 reasons why you should break up.
1. You are extremely unhappy with the relationship even though there seems to be nothing wrong.
If your partner is a good person and they do all they can to please you but you are still unhappy in the relationship then you should think about breaking up and taking a different direction in your life.
The fact that you are unhappy means that something is not right for you and may not be fixable. Chances are if they are very good to you but the relationship chemistry is just not there then this person is just not the person you should be building an intimate relationship with and breaking up may be a decent thing to do for them and you.
2. You are being abused mentally or physically.
This is an easy call from an outsider's point of view but when you are in the relationship you have very strong feelings attached to that person and the insight that others have about your relationship may not resonate as the truth with you. You have to step out of your relationship and look at it from an outsiders view.
If you are being mentally abused and put down then your partner is not respecting you for the person that you are and the way that you choose to do things. If they belittle you or make you feel bad about yourself then they are not doing their job as an intimate partner. A partner should be lifting you up in life and making your feel good about yourself - always! They should be on your side and make you feel like you are a strong and worthy person. Lying, cheating, and mental bullying also fit into this category.
Physical abuse can be scary and hard to get away from but again you need to step outside of your body and view it from another person's point of view. If someone is physically abusing you then they don't see you as an equal partner in the relationship but instead they see you as someone they can control and scare and use for their own purpose. They don't respect you enough to treat you with respect and that is not love, that is not even friendship, that's just abuse. So if you don't break up then you are staying in abuse, not a relationship.
Relationships are about treating each other with respect and love. Abuse has no part of that.
3. Your lives have drifted apart.
You no longer share the common interests that you shared at one time and you no longer have anything to talk about that you both agree on. Your lives seem to be completely different and you have a hard time understanding each other and where the other person is coming from. This may be the time you need to break up and move along your own paths.
The goal of most intimate relationships is unity and staying together for a lifetime. If you have nothing in common for that lifetime and can't laugh at the same things and enjoy the same activities then you are two different people trying to make the best of life with your opposite and you are cheating yourself out of the joy you can have with a like minded partner.
There is nothing better than being in a relationship with someone who shares interests, beliefs, and values. It makes it easier to support and uplift each other in your decisions and it also makes for a smoother ride along the way.
