subject: Lesbian Dating And Relationships - How To Find And Meet Lesbians [print this page] If you've recently come out of the closet, finding other gays and lesbians can be difficult and even scary endeavor. Many fresh-out-of-the-closet lesbians suffer from isolation, believing that they are the only lesbians in their community. No matter where you live, this is probably untrue. There are lesbians everywhere! While it's true that there are lesbians everywhere, where can you go if you're specifically looking just to meet lesbians? Here's a list of some places where you can find other lesbians in your neighborhood.
Lesbian bars
Duh. Lesbian bars might lack the wild and carefree appeal that gay bars have, attracting gay men, straight women, and all sorts of other types in between. However, they are a great place to meet lesbians. That's pretty much what you are looking for, right? If you can't find a lesbian bar, go online and do a little research on google and I'm pretty sure you will find one near you. Even smaller cities and towns tend to have at least one lesbian bar tucked away somewhere, so go out there and find it.
Gay and lesbian center
If you aren't quite ready for dating, but want to get more acquainted with the lesbian community, a gay and lesbian center is the perfect place to get started. There is lesser pressure when compared to a bar setting and you can also take part in the various activities as well. You absolutely must check out the gay and lesbian center in your city and see what programs you can participate in. It can be an excellent resource for meeting other lesbians and bisexual women in your neighborhood.
Women's sports teams
Okay, this is a little stereotypical, but the odds are that if you join a local women's sports team you will meet other lesbians. While I hate to make sweeping statements, lesbians, especially butch, loves to engage in sporting activities. Field hockey would be of no existence without lesbian players. Another up and coming sport dominated by lesbians is roller derby. Take out the aggressive side of you and start meeting women! In any case, many cities have established gay and lesbian sports league, which is a superb way to meet more lesbians living in the same city. But even if there isn't a lesbian-specific sport team for you to join, being active in any women's sports will most likely lead to meeting other lesbians. If nothing comes out of it, at least you manage to meet more people and get yourself in better shape!
Church
I'm not suggesting hanging out at the Catholic Church or anything, but if you're religious, there are some open-minded congregations out there that have gay and lesbian members. Unitarian Churches are widely known for their liberal thinking and could be the starting point for you to meet religious lesbians if you are religious as well.
Gay neighborhoods
Almost every city has a gay neighborhood, even if it's only one block long. Gay neighborhoods typically have gay-owned shops and businesses as well as restaurants, bars, and coffee shops frequented by gays and lesbians. Go out and hang around in the neighborhood, talk to people in the gay bookshop or chat up the cute girl at the gay coffee house. These all some of the best and proven ways to find and locate fellow lesbians in your city.
