subject: A Little Twist To Focusing On What You Want [print this page]
It got me thinking on the traditional advice of: Focus on what you want!
Now, that advice is correct. But in order to get to that point something counterintuitive often has to happen. Something thats known as a change pattern in NLP.
As human beings, theres often a ton of inertia when it comes to making changes in our life. Thats just the way most of us are wired. Its probably a survival mechanism.
Butafter modelling a ton of successful people, whove made massive changes in their lives weve dissected the pattern they go through.
Heres what happens. At first youre doing something lets use smoking as an example so youre smoking and you dont really care. Then you realize it might be bad for you and you consider stopping. Maybe you even try to stop unsuccessfully. Either way, the resent towards this behavior continues to grow. You continue to dislike it more and more and eventually you being to hate it.
I should say up front that hating anything probably isnt healthy, theres stress that comes with that. Look into EFT to deal with that stress.
Eventually, all this buildup leads to a boiling pointwhere youre so frustrated with your current behavior that you HAVE TO change. Youll do anything it takes to change.
At that point you decide what you want instead, and then begin to focus on that solely.
So it was all the away from motivators that kicked you into actionand forced you to choose something else and focus on that.
Another way people get to this boiling point is by experiencing a strong emotional event. This event creates a severe away from motivation, they decide what they want instead and become focussed on that.
Its that strong away from motivation that keeps us focussed on what we want. According to research in the NLP field, were much more motivated by an away from.
Thats something cool I thought Id shareif theres something youd like to change in your life, consider how you can build up that strong away from and force yourself into gear.
