subject: Crucial Steps In Developing Self Confidence [print this page] Lack of self confidence serves as a barrier towards obtaining life's happiness and success. It makes every individual scared of trying to do new things and take possible opportunities that might exist. Certainly, without self confidence, anyone can never move on facing the challenges in life. Forever you will be trapped in one corner, immovable and unhappy. You will feel like a plant withering and dying, a plant that never had the chance to grow and progress while being kept away from sunlight.
So now, the biggest concern lies in how to develop confidence. There are actually plenty of tips and guides over the Internet which you can use to help you with building up self confidence. However, many of these advices were not able to discuss about total acceptance as one of the most vital guides. The first and foremost thing that would actually open someone's mind to gaining self confidence is to learn how to accept life. Ultimate acceptance means that you totally understand that whatever failure or mistake you have, everything is all part of life. Life doesn't mean that you need to be correct, happy, and successful all the time. In order to balance life, mistakes, failures, and sadness should as well be present.
Once you start accepting the truth about life, you will slowly begin to gain self confidence. You will slowly realize that it's normal to fail, to get sad, and to be mistaken at doing something. This way you will come to think that you shouldn't be scared of experiencing the downs in life. In that point, you are slowly building up your courage which gives way to self confidence.
By the time you feel you have accepted life fully, the next step your need to do is to conquer your insecurities. People who are lack of self confidence are so concerned about what the others think or what the others will react in case they commit a mistake or they fail. By thinking so much about the other people's thoughts, you will start to feel scared or worried at doing something. You will start to think that they might laugh at you or maybe insult you that you are not capable of achieving success once you fail in some areas. This is actually a weakness which you need to overcome; otherwise, it will be very difficult for you to move forward. Remember that insecurities are as well hindrances to success. Those individuals around you are in fact even thinking the same way as you do. Keep in mind that assumptions are never considered good. Realize your plans without thinking so much about what the others are thinking. Being different and being judged are all typical things in life that we should know and accept. Never forget that life is all about sharing laughter and tears, failures and success.
The two basic ways of gaining self confidence namely, acceptance in life and overcoming insecurities, might sound easy but are actually a little difficult to accomplish. Without patience and determination, you will never succeed in any those ways. You must know by now that it takes time to develop self confidence. And along the process of learning and developing self confidence, you will go through some failures and mistakes. But don't let yourself get affected by those wrong decisions. Regrets are only realized at the end. When you go through the steps or the challenges, always keep in mind the patience and determination you need to bring with you. Let yourself be inspired at knowing that lack of self confidence can keep you away from your dreams and goals.
